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SD is 23 and is supposedly graduating from college after five years this May.

Background: DH and I met when SD was 5, married when she was 8. He was significantly in debt when we married. He lost his job just 3 months after we married and now makes about half what he did. I advanced in my career and now make double (or more) what he does. So, well over HALF of the money in SD's college account came from my income.

I am suspicious

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SD22 has been in college for five years now. DH assured me she would be graduating this spring but he has not said ONE THING to me about when this happy event will happen. So now I'm suspicious that she is NOT going to graduate. Who among you (besides my absolutely nuts DH) would pay for a SIXTH year of college?

O/T: Should a 9 year old have to get themselves ready

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What is your opinion about expecting a 9 year old to get completely ready for school in the morning with no adult assistance?

Found out DH, who transports BD9 to school in the morning, doesn't help her AT ALL. As a result, no hair brushed, no teeth brushed, no breakfast. I think this is too much. He just sits there like a lump until it is time to leave, says it is completely her job to get ready. I think he could help her a bit, like aid with breakfast or even let her know what is available to eat. Opinions?

My husband is the world's biggest jackass

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SO pissed right now.

BD12 is a difficult child. Reactive, emotional, stubborn as hell, takes EVERYTHING personally. We are struggling right now. I take her to therapy EVERY damn week to help deal with this. DH is not there, nor does he actively engage in the process. BD12 has admitted she takes things out on me because 1) I'm the parent who is there for/with her day in and day out and 2) DH is so angry she's afraid of his reaction.

And back to the question of wills

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DH and I may never agree on this, but his health is not the greatest so his will has been on my mind.

I think, given that we have joint finances, the will should be structured so that all of his money goes to me (to care for our two minor children). But I know DH will think I am leaving SD21 out. Never mind the tens of thousands of dollars we put into her over the years, culminating in five years of college.

I don't think kids are entitled to inherit from their parents. If there is money at the end, great. But that is not an expectation in my opinion. Thoughts?

And ... He went to her

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DH had to go up to the town we used to live in for a court case (nothing he did wrong). SD22 lives 45 minutes north of that large town, which is a 4-hour drive from us. Last time we were in said large town, SD refused to drive the 45 minutes to see DH, and for once he put his foot down and didn't chase after her.

What am I , a storage facility and card catalog?

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Haven't been on here in a while, have been trying to "let it go" when it comes to SD22.

But last night out of the blue DH asked me where is a set of books he bought for SD when she was 7. Um, huh?

I ... don't ... know.

Seriously, I doubt those things are even still around. I boxed her stuff up, those boxes are probably in the attic but who knows if the books are still there.

I have no idea why he brought it up after ALL these years.

OT: My husband almost lost his life yesterday (sarcasm)

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DH has an enormous stomach. I have a pouchy/flabby stomach since I gave birth to our two kids, but it's nowhere near as big as DH's. I also eat very well, I'm just prone to be overweight.

I am standing in our kitchen doing something and DH walks in, pats me on the stomach and says, "Suck it in."

He almost was killed.

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