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Bless her heart, she tried?

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I posted the other day about SD21 asking DH if she "missed" BD8's birthday. Um, yeah, by nearly 2 months. Anyway, BD11 just had a birthday and SD21 sent a "package" for both of them. Bless her heart. It was a small manila envelope that contained sticker sheets and (ugly) adult-sized socks from the Dollar Store? DH even admitted it "wasn't anything big." So I guess it's the thought that counts, right?

Thank you all for your support

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Regarding DH's emotional affair.

I confronted him last night. He didn't deny the situation, which is good, but as I suspected he did not see it in the same light as me. He tried to blow it off, saying he was just joking but I told him it was flirting and unacceptable. Then he tried to say he talks to other co-workers the same way, but of course not the men or lesbians he works with, just this woman. So hmmm.

What would you consider to be an emotional affair?

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DH has a co-worker that I feel he is too close to. He doesn't know how much I know about the extent of their relationship because I have read his texts and am pretty good at figuring things out.

The latest:
DH told me a week ago he is "thinking" about getting a tattoo. Checking his texts yesterday I see he has already made an appointment because he texted this woman to tell her the date and time and invite her to come. He finally emails me today to tell me he has an appointment, no time or location or invitation to come along.

Grrr, the passive-aggressive crap kicks into overdrive (OT)

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So Dh and I are still fighting from last weekend. My two main complaints:

He is lazy.
He pulls passive-aggressive crap all the time.

So, going to pick up oldest BD from camp tomorrow, DH mentioned seeing if he could get off work and accompany us. He went with to drop her off last weekend. I had to take the day off work tomorrow to go get her. (If I'd know he could get the day off, it might have saved me the trip and the day off from work at a not-opportune time, but whatever.)

OT: Need some perspective on a family situation

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My sister is getting married for the first time at age 39. I saw her this weekend and she is wearing as her engagement ring a ring that belonged to my maternal grandmother. It is beautiful. Then my mom pipes up and tells me that for her wedding band they are giving my sister my paternal grandmother's ring.

DH complained about money spent on BD10 and I went all crazy

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Back story: From the time SD was little, DH WAY overspent on her. Nothing was too good for SD21. He even took $1000 out of his 401(k) to buy her a computer at age 6. Since then she got everything she wanted, including participating in club volleyball that cost about $1000 a season, for more than one year. Even up until a month ago, SD21 was living in her college dorms at a cost of $650 a month, a third of that paid by us.

Does it bug anybody else when...

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Your DH is texting his child (in this case SD21) like a boyfriend/girlfriend?

I was driving our family back from the lake this weekend, DH is in the front seat texting back and forth with SD21. But it's not like send her a text to tell her something, it's like send a text, quickly turn the phone face down so nobody can see, but leave it on and check every 5 seconds for her response. Then, the second she responds, text something back to her, quickly turn he phone face down, etc.

Need some guidance before I go straight to ballistic

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DH just posted on his Facebook page that he took our older daughter (10) shooting today to a gun range. I am NOT cool with this, as I was not even informed it was something he planned to do and I am a stickler about gun safety. Not that he can't take his daughter shooting, but don't you think at least owes me as her mom a heads up that he's going to stick a deadly weapon in her hand? He's going to act clueless as to why I'm upset, but I think I have a right to be. Ladies, am I overreacting?

About MIL's funeral: One last post and then I will move on

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MIL's funeral was this last weekend. I posted previously that SD21 did not plan to attend. She did not come.

MIL and FIL had three kids, eight grandkids and 4 great-grandkids. Every ... single ... one of them showed up but SD21. Yep.

On our way back out of town I made a comment to DH about how nice it was to have his entire family together. Didn't mean it to be a jab at him, I was sincere. Then I realized, oops, they're not ALL there. Hope that gave him something to think about though.

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