Any of you who have read my posts already know that fortunately I have very few problems with BM but perhaps all that might change a bit. She and her Bf are splitting up. No she is not after my BF but she expects him to take her kids(not his bios)until she gets a job and gets on her feet. He told her no....last time he did this we had the kids for a year. He said he just can't take them this time. It would fine a for a couple weeks but we know her history and it would be much longer. She didn't help with supporting them either while we had them last time.

:sick: After about 2 hours of sleep last night I am still reeling from all the crazy bm and bm fam texts last night. So, to make matters worse now xmil is texting fdh!!!

Xmil:I am watching closely
how you and your girlfriend are treating the girls
you are hurting them seriously
they tell us everything
shame on u
she has changed you
even dh wrk guys who come here tell me she runs the show
wake up

So, if any of you have read my past blog(s), I've stepped out as the "middle man" between DH and BM because I hate that bitch, I called her a whore, and I really just didn't want to do it anymore. Because of this, DH hasn't spoken to SD5 since June (because of course, BM NEVER EVER calls us for SD to speak to DH).

He was telling me last night that he really misses SD and would like to talk to her, but he just can't make himself do it because he absolutely does not want to speak to BM.

I am a biological mother and a step mother. My 19 y/o son lives in a college dorm, about 5 minutes from my house. My other 16 y/o biological son lives with his dad about 30 minutes from where I live.

I live with DH and SS22 and SD16.

I am losing patience with SD10. There are many things going on in my life and feel that I am being pulled in a million directions. For one, I am working full time and going to school full time. This requires me to lock myself in the bedroom for countless hours to study. All I ask is that things run normally througout the house when this happens so I dont feel like I have to take control on top of everything else.

Has anyone else had a Dh just give up on rotten kids, and move on?? I asked Dh to call his boys last night to remind them about the plans for the weekend and to make sure that they had sweaters and stuff for the family outing, he said why they won't even want to come because the outings are not all about them.

It's 3:30am and I can't sleep. Too much in my mind! BM and crazy family have my head spinning in a million directions. All I can repeat in my head is "no good deed goes unpunished" afterall, me and fdh tried in august to head off this situation, but regardless of our intent we still ended up in the exact same situation we were attempting to avoid.

THANK YOU AND HUGS to everyone who has contributed to ST and made many if not all of our lives a bit less stressful (for lack of a better word). One we get to VENT, two we have emergencies and people RESPOND (though we don't know each other in real life - we care and we are here!). Three, we are community of people - stepparents - united, most if not all trying to do the right thing, because after all, we did google or found this site.

For me, it was making fun of me when I miscarried.

Both fdh and I have been dealing with BM bs relating for a week already regarding to a birthday party the stepdaughters would like to attend. Birthday party is for her niece stepdaughters cousin and very best friend.