Sweetie's picture

My Productive Day

Hi All,
Well, I had a pretty productive day all on my own. I took my DH's truck in for an oil change and drove to another town about 20 minutes away and they checked the truck and changed the oil in 15 minutes. But, amazingly I was completely flabberghasted when the manager came out from the service bay and told me that hardly any oil drained from the truck. I asked him a couple of times if he was sure, and also did he see any leaks. I have been after my DH to make sure the truck is full for oil, particularly since we tow our trailer with this vehicle. Needless to say, I was about fit to be tied when he gives me grief about my car, which is always maintenanced. My car gets dusty inside, but at least, I didn't use the excuse today he gave me, that the oil light wasn't on! And this is after we just have been looking at a brand new F250 Diesel 4x4 King Rancher Crew Cab, Year 2006 at two different dealers lately. I was just boggled.

SMIT's picture

Darn genetics!!!

Has anyone else had to try to love a child who looks so much like his mother that you can't see him as anything but a reminder of your husband's baggage? Thankfully, my little SS is beginning to look more like his daddy, but for a long time, the kid was a frightening spitting image of his mother and I actually resented him for it.

SMIT's picture

Getting hitched in five weeks... and his ex- is digging in

Well, our wedding is just five weeks away and my darling's ex-wife has started to pull some punches. She and I have always gotten along well and I've appreciated that because I know how awful it can be. We've always told each other how much we appreciate each other's parenting styles and I've always been sincere about it. I've never feared that she might want my fiance back--she was the one to initiate their separation and divorce--but it seems that, as our wedding gets closer, she's actually having a hard time with my guy moving on and being happy without her. She seems to have more reasons to call our house lately... Odd, huh?

Sweetie's picture

Trying to Make the Best of Things

Half the week is over already and I have really been on a roller coaster here at home. With any luck, my husband will get his work situation sorted out, and quit bringing his attitude and problems home. Today, I went back to the doctor's about the problem with my ankle collapsing and they started blood testing because they are thinking not only is the problem orthopedic--with the ankle--but also some kind of joing connective tissue disease that is affecting my joints--in particular my both my ankles and wrists which are swollen up as well.

Sweetie's picture

Another Tantrum

Well, I can't seem to get on an even pace with my spouse. He has been nearly impossible to deal with, live with, or be around with. It's like walking on eggshells. He hears things that aren't even said, and blows up for no reason. Now it is getting the only peace I have is when he is at work. I can't have an opinion about anything or it sets him off on another of his immature temper tirades. The person who steps out the door and into the office are two different people. And the stresses and unhappiness he feels at the office he brings home and directs at me. I have no where to go.

cornflower's picture

Do your step-children ever..

say that they wish YOU were their Mother, instead?

This hasn’t happened yet, and I hope it never does! But something that happened over the weekend got me thinking about how I would handle this. My step kids could easily be mistaken for my bios. They have both always been quick to point out to strangers that I’m not their Mother if the topic comes up.

Sweetie's picture

Reflections from the Weekend

Well, I had another one of those evenings over the weekend when my husband blew up for no apparent reason, left the house, post haste, leaving with me with all 3 dogs, albeit one being the puppy getting around on 3 legs. All the dogs and I looked at him like he was from Mars....he is not happy at work, still bringing it all home. I have nowhere to escape. Nowhere to even turn. I won't call my parents and tell them about it. It just keeps happening too frequently. I figure eventually he will come back after an hour, but the apologies do get old and don't mean much. This time he was so mad he told me I was retarded. It hurts. And I don't feel that I deserve to be treated like this. It's how I know deep within myself, I am going to get back on my feet and get another job so that I am not beholden to anyone.

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The Storm

Well, my boyfriend got a call Thursday night at 7:30 p.m. from his daughter alerting him to the fact that she was having surgery Friday morning at 7:30 a.m. for her adenoids. This was the first we had heard from her in three months, not to mention that it would have been nice for biomom to let her father know earlier. So, Friday morning he went to the hospital to be with his daughter, where he should be. Although he thought it would have been a little awkward, because the last time he encountered biomom was the blowout at our house about the daughter being out of control and manipulative (that was the blowout that caused his daughter not to come to our house for the last four months). It went fairly smooth "the biomom was as nice as pie". That's how it has always been handled, the problems are swept under the rug like nothing ever happened, until it happens again. Now, this is where the story starts not to make sense...

Sweetie's picture

5 Month Old Puppy Slowly on the Mend

Hi All,
Just an update on my little puppy, Bullet-the baby Greyhound-my husband drove us to Louisville, GA and we got his remaining two (2) staples that the surgeon forgot to remove taken out this evening. Our vet said we are doing a good job with Bullet but he shouldn't be walking much on the leg or foot which means we will be carrying him around for another month or so. He was just weighed today and is now up to 35 lbs and is rapidly gaining weight.

Sweetie's picture

Missed Opportunities

Well, I have read many of your individual blogs about things that have happened that I have been through but some of you are now approaching issues that I must say I hadn't considered such as the coed sleepover stuff and such. I nor my husband go for that sort of thing, nor for any of the drinking under age either. There will be plenty of time for that later in life. I can recall those moments when my stepdaughter thought I was the greatest thing since sliced bread and these days she has no use for me or her father. The comments and her behavior have shattered both of us. I always hoped that those idealistic moments of when the kids were smaller would somehow transfer over through their teen years but with the shared custody arrangements, it is pretty inevitable that someone ends up being the odd man out.