:? I have been married less than a month but have been with my husband for over 2 years. I have 3 children of my own and pregnant with my first child of my husbands. He has a 7 year old from a previous marriage. The BM is recieving child support (600 a month) alimony (500 a month) lives in a house that my father in law pays for. Their son goes to a very expensive private school/after school care (which we pay for)

Am I the only parent who disagrees with the idea of playing this Santa thing up as long as possible - the the point of outright LYING to the kids when they get old enough to question it?

I know, I know, it's way too early for this but bear with me please.

I will make this a long story short. I have recently married and my husband has a 14 year old son. He is a GREAT child and I love him to death.

This is a very long story and I doubt anyone would have the time or interest to read the whole thing but I have to write it. This is where it all went to shit. This is where I broke. My mental decent into becoming a stepmonster.

I was very sick in bed night before last and he came in to tell me he had been looking at flights out west...high season for Air Miles, so we didn't have enough to cover the flight. I was planning on using our AirMiles for a January vacation, so I suggested he just search a flight. He checked the bus and it was 2 and 1/2 days just to get out there, and he only has a week off. After he checked flights, he said he can get one for $500. return. My only comment was "That's not too bad".

I have the same problem with my DH every year on the first and last day of the kids' school year. Apparently he, his exw and the kids usually go out for ice cream every year on these days and talk about how the kids days went. I hate it. I hate that he plays happy little family with her and the kids. I try hard not to get worked up about it but I can't seem to help it. So here we are again, he's going down there after school tomorrow and I ask him if they are going to eat too and he says he hasn't planned that far or thought about it. I say BS.

Bear with me as I don't know the abbreviations...and I don't know where to begin. All I know is that I need help with all of this!

so... its only now that i have really started to become "apart of the family" or at least trying to get some sort of relationship with me skids.

Until now its been more of a Hi and Bye thing and a few questions but not much else, but its been pleasent and im not trying to bounce in and be the new mum in the family and we it slowly building up to more, which was a good pace for everyone.

Can someone help me to understand I love a very pretty women which i fell in love with over nine years ago i have two step daughters one is 23 the other is 14.early in our relationship i gave up my house to live with her were she has a trailer that is about 75 feet from us her mother.she has alaways done all the kids work and i mean everything for these girls.

So this summer dh was contemplating giving ss12 an extra phone he had. (this is not a phone blog. I know people have mixed feelings about that.) SS has had a phone since 3rd or 4th grade because his mom wanted him to have one. 'She' pays the service and everything. Last year dh got him a new one because the one ss had was in really bad condition and the phone was his Christmas gift. So anyway we have an extra phone that ss has asked for.