So my SD -11, texts her dad (we got her a phone for her birthday so we could keep in touch with her - bm would never answer the phone or give her messages) Anyway SD texts her dad this morning "SOS, please please help!" So of course he calls her right away and asks what's wrong.

So I was talking to a co-worker yesterday about her 18yo D who just graduated HS in June and is now going to straight to college in this week. Her D got such good grades in high school that she has a full-ride scholarship to a expensive, PRIVATE university. What's MORE, her D has WORKED part-time in a daycare for the past 2 years (since 16yo) and even though D will be staying at home while attending college to save on those costs, D is looking for a JOB to subsidize her own "fun" while attending school. I should note that D is the product of an intact, nuclear family.

OK, so this one can be filed away in the "greedy BM with no conscience and no appreciation" folder.

Recently, my BF has spent large sums of money on skids in a very short period of time, in addition to what he normally spends on them (and in addition to the massive CS $$ he pays his exW) - I will list some examples:

1. SS26 just got married and my BF paid for the entire wedding rehearsal dinner (with the prior understanding from his exW/BM that they would each pay 1/2 the cost) - cost: about $1,000.00, of which BF has not received BM's 1/2 from her yet.

Hi there. I've been a long time lurker and I feel kind of guilty that I'm only a reader and don't post. I'm a stepmom to a 16 year old and 13 year old. My husband was awarded custody after many years of garbage and after custody trial last year. Kids are with their mom for the summer (she moved to WA after custody was changed). They will be returning here in less than two weeks.

After our first year (last year) with two teenagers full time in our home, DH and I have been talking about different things to try with them.

I agree that our attitudes toward our skids do come from a feeling of rejection...For me my skid came into the picture after I met my dh...and was thrown at me because his bm was done. I was very young and emotionally immature. I didn't feel as though I ever had a choice as to whether or not I wanted to care for him FT and I was surprised and ashamed that I didn't love or even like this super cute kid that everyone else seemed enamored with.

SD called me last night and told me that she wants to get put on birthcontrol.... but not because she wants to have sex, she says it's to help with her periods. I asked her if she talked to BM about it and she said that yes, she tried but that BM freaked out and started yelling, etc. She asked if I would take her. I told her that no, I couldn't take her without one of her parents permission, so we agreed that her & I would talk to her dad this weekend when she came back to our house.

I have a question about my SD7 and in particular my SD5 that some of you 'in the know' may be able to help me with.

We've all see it.

I just joined this site to see if I might gain any knowledge about having to deal with my kids and my husband, their step dad....I just want to say that I am suprised at how many nasty snide remarks are being made about the step children! They have lost life as they knew it and you expect them to adjust to your ways and be lovely? While kids should be respectful of adults..their real parents are the ones that are supposed to be teaching them that. Did you think it was going to be easy having a strange kid show up at your home for however the custody battle was settled?

Alright. Venting is helpful.
I registered SS11 for 6th grade today. Everything was fine until I went to the ID Card area. He needs his ID to ride the bus.
I explained that SS11 is not with me and is "away" for the summer (I hate explaining the custody agreement to admin. I just give up the POA and let them figure out the rest.)
The nice ID Card lady asked if I could bring him in before school starts next week because it will be hectic next week.
I text BM (this has been the first time I text her in a VERY long time) as DH is away for work.