I haven't posted here in quite a while. I have a 15 yo ss who has been living with us full time for 10 years. Just this past week my DH (after much pressure from yours truly) finally filled out the paper work to go after his ex for CS. She owes between 15-20 k. Yeah, she paid us the full amount of court ordered support the first week...that was it. And she got away with it for all these years (I guess you could say he let her). In the meantime, I had taken on a part time job in addition to my full time job, to make ends meet.

It just dawned on me DH simply does not have what it takes to hold his child responsible for his actions. He simply is not capable of administering the reality therapy this young man of 22 so desperately needs to become a person of integrity. Yet another chapter in the family drama. SS lost his job and does not have any employable skills. DH asked if I can help with job search but I simply cannot recommend SS for employment or ask anyone else to do so. He is habitually truant, been caught sleeping on the job and cheated on his time sheet.

Our extended visitation for the summer is OVER!!! I literally wanted to yell and jump up and down when they left but I contained myself in front of my kids. SS was excited too, of course. No one likes these extended visits but DH feels since he is allowed the time and since he pays cs then he should get him the 30 days. Anyhow, regular eow visits resume but no more extended visits for awhile!! Even DH said that now our house can get back to normal. Exactly.

Last week it was bm's turn to take the kids for counciling. The session is scheduled for Mondays at 4 in a town about an hour away. That same day the school was having the physicals and drug testing for the kids. I spoke with the band director and explained that the kids had Counciling at that time and the director told me that they didn't have to do that at the school, they could goto any doctor to have it done. Well I let bm know to get with the kids doc to have that scheduled for sd since she was going to miss the schools because of counciling.

It's probably not the best way of thinking but it might actually give me something to help in the stress. I know that my ss11 will be with us for long after he is 18 since bm has already stated that she's moving as soon as the kids are 18 and he will not be capable of living on his own because of his mental condition. But where alot of the stress comes from here in the house is sd14. Bm can't control ss the way she does sd so I figure that once sd turns 18 that the stress might actually reduce quite a bit.

So BFs phone is shut off for a week cause he has to pay for BMs mess.. She bought a new phone before her contract was up, and now he owes cause she switched contracts.. ANYWAYS, BF has been without a phone since Thursday and won't have one till friday.. The sweetest thing??? BM can't blow up his phone its WONDERFUL!!!!! So now she is texting me about dumb shit lol..

So, after a year long nightmare of battling the crazy, bitter BM she finally gets it. H finally stands up to her and stands his ground and she realizes that she no longer has control over him. After a few tries I believe it was her bruised ego more than anything that made her back off. She was asserting her importance in his life and he was rejecting it. Instead of continuing to be rejected she chose to be civil because it avoided the rejection. She couldn't control him but she could control putting herself out there to be rejected.

To start, I have been around SD14 for about 2 1/2 years no problems in the beginning. Lately things have gotten bad, really bad. DH works graveyards so I am the "parent" while he is at work, most of the time as soon as he drives away she turns into a total defiant smart mouth little girl. She takes off down the block I have to go get her, she doesn't get to bed when she is supposed to doesn't do her chores but the worst part is that she argues EVERYTHING, has an excuse for everything, calls me a B**ch to my face and many other names.

:? I can't stand this one more day and just need some guidance. BM/EX is calling daily with trivial things to say and couldn't handle a fight with skids so call all evening while at dinner with my family. She knew we were out to dinner and had to call seven x's to have my husband solve the problem. Should I confront her and tell her to grow up. I told him that if he answers her call again, I'm done. She has been trying to split us up since we got married. She cheated on him and he left her. She has not moved on or found another relationship! What should I do? Please help!

My wife doesn't acknowledge my 11 Biological son when he comes over every other weekend.We can walk in together from picking him up and she will just walk by him or just act like he's not there.