DH XMIL and narcissist xwife good morning text!
:sick: After about 2 hours of sleep last night I am still reeling from all the crazy bm and bm fam texts last night. So, to make matters worse now xmil is texting fdh!!!
Xmil:I am watching closely
how you and your girlfriend are treating the girls
you are hurting them seriously
they tell us everything
shame on u
she has changed you
even dh wrk guys who come here tell me she runs the show
wake up
I thought fdh should reply to xmil with...
Per BM and my agreement you are interfering. Stop contacting me. Any further communication will be considered harassment.
Then I thought he shouldn't reply to her, but instead reply to bm saying....
Your mother just texted me and I will consider it a threat. She has no bases for her accusations toward me or my fiancé therefore you need to speak to her and tell her to stop. As you so stated, third parties can not/should not interfere. Any further contact by any member of your family will be considered harassment and will be handle by a judge.
What ya think ladies and gents?
I have already told xmil to loose my number so she def won't be contacting me.
- zenjetset's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
What does DH think about
What does DH think about xmil? Does he not like her? Do you think he will want to write something back/think she is out of line?
He doesn't like her because
He doesn't like her because she is controlling and always has interfered with him and bm when they were married. Post divorce she would call and text what he should and shouldn't be doing etc.
He think he should not open the door of communication with her but instead text bm and have her deal with HER family!
I does appear that way on
I does appear that way on here because I come here to get other opinions, but that is not the case. DH and I talk about everything, he asks for my opinion and my put of view on things. I have been down this road before, for I have a 22yo in comparison to his 6&11 I've seen child development at different stages.
As to bm and bio family issues, thank god I didn't have to deal with him with my daughter. Her dad and I had major issues in the beginning but later on the work themselves out. We never played these games. My family was not crazy they never interfered. I myself was easy going and went with whatever the agreement said. We never made any changes or interfered with each others time.
fdh values my experience and opinion on issues with biofam. I post here on behalf of both of us to get advise.
I like this!!! Thx!!
I like this!!! Thx!!
Make sure that DH's response
Make sure that DH's response is an EMAIL rather than a text so he can document it. Unless you are able to get printouts of incoming/outgoing texts with your phone service.
We were wanting to avoid the
We were wanting to avoid the email route because it will just give bm another mode of communication in which she will abuse. We are not able to print out our text, but I had a little issue with an old bf once who would text me from 10pm - 4am. Some text saying he was coming over, others that he was outside, more that mentioned how he was going to ruin a lawsuit I had going at the time...etc. After three sleepless nights worrying about if he was going to break in or not (because he had broken in before); I decided to go to the local police. The officer took my info, went through my iPhone (xbf text message only) and made a little visit to xbf as well as filed a report.
Officer suggest I file a restraining order, which I did and was granted. The judge reviewed some if the text messages, again off my iPhone. I'm not saying that family court is the same, but we do forward all the text messages to our gmail account..
Per BM and my agreement you
Per BM and my agreement you are interfering. Stop contacting me. Any further communication will be considered harassment. <-- I like this.
Once you send this last text, anything received after that, I say forget the pleasantries and charge them all with harassment. You have the text messages proving that this is on-going and that you've asked them to stop.
Good grief!
Ignore. You have to have the
Ignore. You have to have the self-control to NOT react. That's the only way it will stop.
Believe me, I've BTDT. It's the only thing that has ever worked with my NPD XH.
Sometimes the best thing to do is often the hardest thing to do.
I know for my cell phone
I know for my cell phone carrier, you can block texts from whatever numbers you want. Maybe your DH could check into that option.
And next time you go to court, make sure to put more specifically WHO are the third parties that are included in the "no contact." Even if BM was the one who originally wanted the wording put in, you can ask to have that modified. We did.
LMAO!!! Yes and no...we are a
LMAO!!! Yes and no...we are a partnership in every sense. We communicate about everything. So we do as much as possible as a collaboration, which now ST is included as part of that collaboration.
Though I am a bm I have never experienced this kind of crap before! It's ridiculous! That's why I ended up on ST. My child didn't behave like fdh, and I certainly did not act crazy with my daughters father. This is all new to me and fdh has been dealing with this shit for 18years (16 married 2 divorced) he wants it to end. We are trying to find peace in our home without interferce from biofamily.
You can only cry harassment
You can only cry harassment in court if you have specifically told the person that they are harassing you and they need to stop (at least here). Text BM this (and of course document EVERYTHING) : Your mother has sent me a threatening text message. Per our agreement your mother is interfering. Any further communication will be considered harassment and will be handled by a judge.
Then, get a court date set up because you know there will be further communication.
After that, dont block them from texting - get all the dirty documentation on them that you can - simply dont respond.
Thanks everyone! FDH has
Thanks everyone! FDH has taking control.
fdh: Your mother texted me with a threat and accusations toward me and (my name insert here). Any further contact by any member of your family to me or (my name inserted here) will be considered harassment and will be handle by a judge.
He immediately got a phone call, let it go to voice mail from bm younger sister who was a cop and now a detective. His message to fdh said, "I need to ask you a question. Call me back."
fdh asked me what I thought...hmm, another manipulation intimidation tactic. I asked him what he thought he said, "I dont know, he usually doesn't get involved." I said any other reasons he could be calling? Fdh said "no". I said there's you answer.! Fdh said I'm curious though what he says to say. I said you know what they say...curiosity killed the cat! He started laughing said yep, I could be the cat. Ok, I won't call him back.
What the hell?!?! These people are totally out of control.
Honestly-I think your H
Honestly-I think your H shoudl stop involving you in his mess alltogether-partnership ...that's him dumping his responsibility on you. I understand he is sick but things like this can destroy your relationship.
Unless you are the kind that does like to control the situation and "run things"....I would step back -tell them to lose your n, even his exwife. She should have no reason to contact you ever. And your H should take matters into his own hands and deal with it-not share TM, voicemails, ask your opinion, etc...he's a grown man and he's their father.
I honestly and firmly believe half of the reason blended families have so many issues is because the bioparents get the stepparents involved and say way too much or ask for them to help. BIG mistake....look at the stress and drama. Not worth it. Your marriage deserves protection.