DH seems not to get it either he just does not want to fight with BM or he blindfolded. So BM enrolled SS3 into a preschool program 2 x a week Tue. and Thurs. from 1 to 5 pm. BM is working with his schedule since he does not have set days off his court order parenting time is Wed. and Sat. So DH picks SS3 as schedule if he gets him on Tue. and Thurs he needs to take him to his preschool here is the catch BM says she needs to be there when he drops him and picks everytime if DH days off fall on those day beacuse BM is the only one that can sign him in and out. Full of it!!!

Well, I know that it has been time for me and my boyfriend to simply part ways.... I will never marry this man, however, I do love him greatly. I just don't want to be a SM, i read Step Talk, enough to want more in my future...

Just looking for advice ... in how this can be done IN THE EASIEST WAY

Thanks

So i've been reading Stepmonster and had it sitting out on the living room table because i'll read it when DH is watching something on TV i dont care about. My DH's parents came over this weekend to babysit my dog while we were away for the day - didn't even think about the book being out. MIL has been quiet to me ever since. I'm wondering if she's pissed when she saw the book and thinking what could be wrong with her darling grandchildren that i have to get a book to cope and understand things with them.

I made the mistake last night of answering DH's question "What is wrong?" Instead of saying nothing, never mind, I'll get over it....I told him what was bothering me.

I got my ass handed to me, DH nailed himself to a cross and played martyr. Apparently I'm a selfish, grasping bitch and all I care about is myself. He said he's tired of my attitude and we should just end the marriage.

If so, how did he (and/or you) respond to the person calling him that?

BM used to call DH a deadbeat dad, despite his paying her $1500 a month for two kids and constantly taking her to court to enforce his visitation rights. Now that we have custody, she's not calling him names anymore, but it aggravated me.

BM has no idea we have access to her Facebook page, yet she posted this video in dedication to my DH. She screwed up their marriage & was the one who chose to leave over & over. I feel like a dumbass for feeling this way, but I kind of feel sorry for her...

"White Flag"

I know you think that I shouldn't still love you,
Or tell you that.
But if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it
where's the sense in that?

I promise I'm not trying to make your life harder
Or return to where we were

Hey ya'll!! LOL after being on here randomly off and on the past year and a half whining and complaining about my situation I have finally fixed it. I clung to the hope that the ostrich would see that being focused a thousand percent on his kids and leaving me standing there wondering what on earth would make him see he was just pushing me further and further away. It is sad to say behind his back so to speak I began looking for someone who would value time with me and not make me feel like such a mom and slave master all of the time.

Many of the 'milestones' in my skids lives were done with me or BD. We waited for BM to do it, sometimes mentioned it to her but she never followed through. For example, we've done the following for one or the other of the skids:
potty trained
taught them to read,
took away the pacifier at nearly 3 years old
got them sleeping in beds on their own
taught them to tie their shoes
taught them to get their own breakfast
taught them to ride bikes
taught them to roller skate
got them swimming lessons

BM's father died before either child SD7 or SD5 were born yet these kids will go on and on and on about how they 'miss' grandad Pat. BM has also filled their heads full of crap about how grandad pat is sitting up on a star looking over them (think Mustafa in the Lion King).

SD's first full day visit was an emotional roller coaster for me. H can't understand why this is all so hard for me. I don't blame him for that, I can barely comprehend it myself. He tried so hard to just do what he does and let me move at my own pace (snail). I know he's trying but they way he does it put a ton more pressure on me.