I get to thinking I'm good without steptalk, maybe I delude myself. I get some moments of quiet. I think my situaton is surely different/better/superior/solved. It isn't. And I've been a crummy listener to everyone else who is reaching out here in my false superiority. For that, I apologize.

BM is dead. deadeadeadead. d. e. a. d. I shared my relief over her passing here. 

It's mothers day tomorrow. My H has taken it upon himself to call and coddle and soothe his 40 year old 'children'.

Have been MIA for a while. Just havent had a lot of time this past year so far to blog like I used to. Anyway, kind of jumping off of Morning Mia's blog..saying I am marking one year since I have been blocked on SD on social media.

Just a small example of BM not always being the problem.  My SD is in the midst of divorce with her STBX.  They do have a 50/50 schedule worked out..and they both made claims to each other they would be flexible when needed. They are doing the 2/2/3 method since they both are living close to one another and in same school district.

Also found out that BM offered SD18 and her boyfriend (who is almost 17) edibles (they are legal in our state for 21+) while they stopped over her house for SDs birthday. Apparently she had them laying out and told them they can take them. 

Trying so hard to look cool instead those kids looked at her with disgust. 

Happy Mother's Day to all you moms and stepmoms (including dog and cat and other pet moms) out there! 

I don't have (human) kids, but I am celebrating that this is my second year heading into Mother's Day NOT seeing the extreme forced Mommy Worship that takes place annually on social media by my skids--the over-the-top wuv and kisses and hugs and gushing these two adult skids have done for years. It has always been so over-the-top that it comes off as dictated and disingenuine.  

Thoughts?

I would not question for one bit if I was invited or DW was invited to a family event and the invitation did not specifically name the partner, say "Mr & Mrs", or say "+1".

We would happily show up and participate and let the chips fall where anyone who had a problem with it chose to drop their chips.

Family events (Weddings, Funerals, Graduations,Birthdays, Quinceaneras, Christinings, etc...). If we had the more contentious model of blended family marriage where 

I've been waiting for the other shoe to drop since the day SD63 got referrals for her tremors and leaking, bleeding breast implants.  That was also the day she told me her car needed $800 in repairs to pass inspection and laid down all her other financial, medical and relationship problems.  In the meantime, I learned she has 2 upcoming court appearances for speeding, lapsed plates and no car insurance.  She was scheduled to be here today to pay her "rent' and I dreaded it 

Hey good morning bonus parents! Happy early Mother s Day Anybody else with younger step kids feel like our Mother's Day has been stripped away from us? It feels like SK's get centerstage 24/7 and although my bio boys are older now, I still feel like my mom title was taken away and I was handed a "step mom" title. This feeling sucks and I have felt like this for a while even more so closer to Mother's Day, perhaps it's because my sks do seek so much attention. Any other ladies feel this way? 

Hi, everyone! I am new here. I am here mostly to vent. I have been in a relationship with my DH for 8 years, but we've only been married for just over 2 years. My stepson (now 16) was 8 years old when DH and I got together. At the time, DH had been separated from BM for 3 years, but their divorce wasn't final until the summer after we got together, 2017. Legally, DH has custody every week, Friday and Saturday night. Unofficially, we've had SS16 from Thursday-Sunday since 2018.

This weekend was OSS's BD. He's early 30's.  It was inconvenient for us to go to the lake (1/2 hr. from where OSS lives) but we went to take him to dinner to celebrate his bday. Obviously, DH paid for dinner for all 7 of us--OSS, SDIL, 2 SGDs, DS 17, DH, & me. It went fine. As usual, all discussion was around OSS's life, no questions about ours.