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confused ....any ex-steps??

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Me and my son's father are not together but were living together for 4 years and during that time I practically raised his kids because the BM is a deadbeat. (Read my blogs) since I see him M-F to drop the baby off I'm around his kids frequently. I don't know how they feel about me and the whole.situation because it is messy. They are 9 and 14. I just worry that they might treat my son differently because of me. I just wanted to know if there are any ex step-parents here that could give insight or advice.

a visit from the deadbeat BM turned Disney mom

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BM is in town visiting. I drop off and.pick.up my son 18months from SO's house everyday so even though my SO and.i are.kind of living separately . I see him everyday. I asked where the boys were... they are.with their mom. She hasn't.seen them since July 2010. She is staying a hotel because she has burnt bridges with all her family here because of her being a deadbeat loser who pops in and out of her kids lives when its conveinant for her. I guess she asked my SO if she could stay at his.place.with her and.her.other 2 kids. He said no.

O/T for those who blog

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On other sites,blogs or wherever. Im looking to start a blog as a way to get my thoughts and.feelings out and maybe a way for me to dissect.my.own life.--Ya know like.looking at a timeline.. for those who blog... whats blogging sites are.good? Do follow any blogs? What inspired.you to start one and what do you write about??

I will be part of my step kids lives forever whether I like it or not

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Because I have a baby with their father. After 4 years of living together and some recently bad fights. I no longer live with my son's father and his kids. But since I work M-F 8-6 my ex takes.care.of.the baby and I have to pick him up after work. I know that I can't be the only.person in this type of situation. I'm reaching out for others who are "kinda step-moms." If u read my blog then u know that the boy's BM is a deadbeat loser. so I was the main mother figure for a while and now I'm just there to pick up and drop off my baby.

not my problem anymore

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SS9 school called his aunt because SO's phone is off. She tells me.in a message that the school. Social worker wants to talk to my SO about SS9. I don't know what going on because SO doesn't.speak to me.when I come home to pick up the baby. We are not together anymore because he told.me.to leave. Now I feel obligated to talk to him about SS9 because if something is wrong or whatever I don't want him around my baby. I trust the baby with my SO but I don't trust his kids as far as I can see them.

now what?!?

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I have stayed all last week at my.parents house after our big fight when SO.told.me to leave. However I take.our son (16 month old baby) over every.morning so he can watch him while.I'm at work. I'm finding this situation really.difficult because I still love.my.SO.deeply but I do know that he's not the best for me.and.I deserve better. Its hard for me to get over him if I have to see him every day.how am I supposed to move on? I go to work,come home and.take.care.of.my.son. I barely go out with my friends because of.no time.or.money. I feel so alone!

straw that broke the camel's back

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I went thru my SS9cell phone.it doesn't work he just uses it to play with and take pictures. He left.it in our room so I look through it and see the text message outbox has a message to my number " your a stupid bitch from SS name" . Now my SS9 can barely.spell.the word dog so I don't know if it was him or his older brother SS14 . But either way as the woman who has been taking of them.for 4 years because their BM is. Deadbeat loser. It hurts to see that. My relationship with SO has been nothing but fights,no trust, bad communication for months.

BM wants to file harassment against me! WTF

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I text BM yesterday. " you to contribute money consistently for food. I'm going broke paying for foods that your kids before I can. If you can afford fancy hotels and.trips to Miami then you can afford to send $100/week for food for your own kids ". She responds tray with a call telling me that she is filing harassment against me because I text her to help with her kids. --> am I dreaming??? I've taken care.of her kids for 4 years because she is deadbeat who has her priorities fucked up.

pay up dead beat BM

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Time to ruffle some feathers. So BM is diving me nuts with these daily calls.with the skids about this "fun trip" . I want to tell her that if she has enough money to go stay at expensive hotels in Miami then she needs to start sending us $100/week for food. I'm tired of using my.money and credit cards so her kids can eat all the food. If she isn't going to be a parent anytime soon she needs to at.least take financial responsibility.

deadbeat BM = wannabe Disney mom

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BM has been talking to skids telling them she is going to take to Miami with her, her man and her other kids. 2 &3. Supposedly it was going to happen in February but she must.not realize that kids have to go to school. So she called.last night wanting to know their school schedule. Told them the website to.look at the hotel---yuck! BM hasn't seen her kids since for a month in July.2010 because I made them.g visit her when she lived in Illinois (our state) and I was pregnant. She keeps filling their head up with ideas of hotels, beaches and fun.

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