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SS might end up with us FT and I'm terrified

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Mon, 01/08/2024 - 3:23pm

So earlier this week I posted about all of the Crazying Crazy was doing, and one night this week DH and SD were sleeping and SS17 just kind of unloaded to me about Crazy and how insane she is, unprompted. He usually doesn't say much about her so I was surprised, but he genuinely thinks she is insane, and her actions are ridiculous. Here are the cliffnotes: 

-Crazy just broke up with her BF again, and she always goes off the deep end and takes it out on SS (she admitted this to him once). Their last breakup was days after Thanksgiving, after she had just gone to his family's. 

The fallout from SS being a lying little liar

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Mon, 12/11/2023 - 2:55pm

So last time skids were with us, SS17 admitted lying about going to his ex gf's house when he tells us he's going to the gym. He didn't care at all that he lied and said "I think I'll find a way to live with myself". DH told him he was very disappointed since there was no reason to lie, and now trust is broken. This all happened the night before they left for Crazy's, so we had a whole week to sit with it. I recommended consequences, DH of course balked and had only planned on "talking to" SS.

Crazy is in a healthy, adult relationship

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Mon, 12/04/2023 - 11:28am

Just kidding! But she has been dating a guy for maybe 7 or 8 months? And they have broken up approximately 8 times in the past 3 months, according to SS17. Crazy and SD14 just went with him to his family's for Thanksgiving, and they have already broken up, again. Lol. These are grown ass adults, how do they think this is normal behavior?? Aside from his questionable relationship choices, he seems to be a normal, nice person with a respectable career, so it boggles the mind that he is entertaining her crap.

This kid is incapable of doing anything on his own

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Wed, 09/13/2023 - 1:04pm

Is anyone else's skid incapable of doing anything without asking their parent? SS17 is a smart kid. He's attending college classes at the University as a Sr in High School, while also attending high school. He has plans for college and a career and I believe he will do it. But he lacks common sense and can't even do the most mundane things without asking DH about it. DH and him are CONSTANTLY texting- if DH gets a text, I have to stop myself from sighing because I know who it is. And DH drops everything to respond immediately. 

Skid week scaries

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Fri, 09/08/2023 - 10:24pm

I reallllly dislike the dynamic in our home when skids are with us for a multitude of reasons, which mainly include: how SD14 manages to ruin any fun activity by pouting or complaining and never having fun, how she tells DH each week that Crazy does everything for her and he does nothing for her, her inability to maintain friends or find any activities to do outside of the house thereby making DH her only form of entertainment, and the way DH has SS17 on a pedestal so SS can do no wrong...I could go on but these are the current highlights. Just this week DH told me SS17 was his favorite 3 t

Disengaging so far

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Thu, 08/31/2023 - 10:59pm

Welp. Skids came to us Monday, and this is my first week of disengagement. DH wasn't going to even talk to SD14 about her telling Crazy that I write messages in OFW (lie), but it happened anyway. She told DH she made an appt with her new guidance counselor to "talk to her about her foreign exchange program". DH laughed and said, you're joking right? She asked why that was funny and he told her she was out of her mind if she thought her behavior warranted us agreeing to let her be an exchange student.

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