You are here

step off already's Blog

Can bm NOT pay medical expenses?

step off already's picture

Since she has joint legal custody and has not consented for glasses, contacts or therapy?

Now, mind you, she also doesn't do things like show up for graduation, plays, teacher conferences, etc but on paper she has joint legal.

Just wondering. This is all knew and we finally have an order for her to pay half of his medical expenses.

(I'm sure the counselor would be more than happy to write the court a letter discussing the many. I ferns she has about ss - if it helps)

Can't Wait! And advice needed

step off already's picture

We are about to present BM with her first month of SS14's medical expenses: glasses, contacts and counseling. Her 50% portion will amount to about $325.

Should we hand it to her at the exchange on Friday night - me or dh hop out of the car at the public transportation station, knock on her door and hand her the envelope? Should we send it certified mail to her current address? The address she uses for court that she tells us to send things to (since the apt she lives in is not under her name)?

My Evil Thoughts on Making my Summer Enjoyable

step off already's picture

SS14 is off at BM's for the second of his three - two week extended stays for summer visitation with his mother. Typically we do two weeks on/off and that lasts for most of the summer, however, this year SS will be starting a new school and will be off to school two weeks early. So he will arrive back from his final two week visit with his mother and then will start school the following Wednesday!

SCORE! That means I don't have to deal with him around the house for two extra weeks as he'll be off to school.

Why is SS14 such a putz?

step off already's picture

It was Dh's bday this week. I just so happened that I had to leave on the morning of his bday for a quick work trip and would return the next day. I gave kids marching orders to buy some cup cakes at the baker down the street and gave all the kids (mine and SS) a card, asked them to write a nice note to DH and to celbrate after dinner with the cards, a gift that was arriving from UPS that day and the cupcakes.

I arrive home and see all the kid's cards in a pile, but not a card from SS.

I ask DH if SS gave him one and he says he can't remember.

The funny thing about summer and Step Life

step off already's picture

We have SMs that want their skids gone
we have BMs who don't want to send their bios away
we have NCPs that are "declining" visitation
we have skids that don't want to go to the NCPs
We have BMs who are banking on their break

... no one seems to be happy.

Why must we have these "special summer schedules"

Now, don't get me wrong. I will repeat this ALL FRICKEN DAY LONG: "SS14, its good for your to spend time with your BM. That is an important relationship in your life. PLUS its ordered by the judge, so we have to stick to it!"

SS14 "hates" going to BM's

step off already's picture

Well, now that BM has planted the seed that he doesn't "have" to come over, SS14 is complaining and throwing fits that he effin hated it at his mom's, it's so boring, blah, blah blah.
SS feels like he misses out on EVERYTHING.

DH said, "Sorry SS. Remember last year when you fought and fought and cried that all you wanted was to spend more time with your mom? Well now's your chance".

SS says that that was a year ago.

Thankfully DH reminded SS that it wasn't anyone's choice, that there was a court order dictating the visitation.

BM dropping hints for ss14 not to do any more summer visitation

step off already's picture

Ss14 gets to have three, two week visits with his mom during summer. Last summer was the first time that was in the order.

This year, bm moved into her own apartment just in time for ss's first visit. Bm had to actually interact, feed and play mom with her son. She no longer had her gf's parents to watch him, feed him, while she did whatever and ss14 played xbox live all day with his friends.

The gf did not let bm take the xbox live -that bm told ss was his.

She gears up, she sends warning and then.... NOTHING

step off already's picture

SS14 was supposed to have his Court Ordered call with his mother last night some time between 7 and 8 pm. He had made plans to go out with his friend for the night so we suggested he give his non-working mother a call around 4 before he left to chat at that time and let her know he had plans later in the night.

Well, BM was clearly pissed from our text war on Monday and laid into him as soon as he called.

Pages