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Calling CPS
It has been suggested to me by a friend that I should call CPS on BM.
This friend once had a severe depression and drug problem, abandoned her husband and children and is now clean and sober, non-custodial and works her ass off to pay child support and commute up into the mountains to see her boys every other week for a 5 day visit. She spends her time in meetings, working and visiting her children.
She has known the whole story with our BM - and it mirrors her own many years ago. My friend is always telling me to pray for BM and that BM is sick and needs help.
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I Gave in to the Demon
I couldn't help it. I'd had a drink (OK, two). And she started in.
SS14 had been two hours late returning home - the first time we gave him priveleges to go out on his own to "explore" the world with his friend.
Bm is allowed to call SS14 on Mon and WEd between 7 and 8 ( based on RO). She texted at about 7:15 asking where her son was and DH had him call back. But he also had him explain that he still had to give the dog a one hour walk and eat dinner and finish a few chores. And then Ss got off the phone.
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Ss14's visit with counselor
My daughter has an excellent counselor who has also seen my younger brother and sister. This woman is great and to the point. We asked the counselor and my dd13 if they'd be open to is sending ss there. Dd thiught it would be good for ss - my dd appreciates and enjoys this woman immensely and is happy to share a good thing.
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Summer vacation ...
We told ss14 to keep trying to go play with his friends. The kid is so lazy, he actually confessed to dh that he wasn't feeling sick last night, he was feeling depressed because he couldn't play video games with his friends ( we don't allow online gaming at our home and bm hadn't set up wifi at her home). Poor boy!
Today dh encouraged him to set up some time t play with his frind who lives around the corner. My personal summer mission had been to get all kids out if the house, on bikes, exploring, off of their devices/ tv/ electronics.
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SS14 got his iPod back
And went directly to his room. Hadn't been in his room all weekend but apparently he has "business" to take care of.
Our newest rule for teens who break the mobile rules? Devices get taken away and reset - as in, restored to factory settings, you lose. You must now start over.
I gave ss his iPod back after about a month (last 2 weeks at BM's) and he was asking where all his friends went. I reminded him that if he breaks the rules, the device gets a reset and that he would need to call up his frind and ask for numbers of other friends.
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And this is why I can't stand the ExH
Get a text from him today asking if I have plans for the kids for the fourth because he'd like to take them somewhere.
Um. Yes. I do have plans.
You had them last year and I have then this year and I've been looking forward to some fun: whether it's at our house, a friends house or even going out of town.
He had already sent a text clarifying the summer pick up schedule noting that he's bring the kids at 8:30 am on Fridays since Thursday evenings are his.
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Oh lord I try, but this is why I hate the inlaws
SS14 is home with us this weekend. My bios are at dad's. He helped dh with house projects and was up at 7. I suggested he call his friend. Friend is busy.
I suggested he call cousin. They chat. End of story
Or so we think
Dh gets a call from his mom asking why we are asking for ss to spend the night at his aunts house when we know xyz is going on. Dh let's his mother know that ss was just calling cuz to see what's going on and there was no intention of anyone spending the night.
DH is livid.
Maine with his fam. Again.
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Why am I the one planning SS14's Trip with BM's sister to go visit Bm's other sister?
Oh that's right. Because none of bm's family speaks with her. Or maybe it's because they know bm has minimal contact with her son.
Still bugs me. I want all of BM as far away from my life as possible.
But here I am. Getting messages from the sisters.
Uuugh.
I am too kind.
But on the bright side, it's an extra 5 days u don't have to deal with SS.
Bm's new "fancy" life in the new apt ain't all that
Dh has his call with SS14 tonight. BM answers, "here's YOuR SON!", all snotty style. This is the same woman who is allowed to call twice weekly, per the RO, but instead will text at 7:15 and say "it's 7... Whers ma son"
But I digress.
S
Bm is clearly agitated. Dh asks ss if bm is drunk. Ss mumbles a no. Dh asks several times if he's ok. Ss mumbles that he is. Dh asks what he's been doing. Ss says "nothing". Dh asks if he's been playing Xbox -ss states that bm doesn't have wifi in her new apt.
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My ss14 is so oblivious, superficial and generally a prick
I asked / told ss14 last week that his father wanted a new golf bag for Father's Day. D asked if he wanted to help pick one out. He shrugged buss houses and said "I don't really want to they him that".
Fine. No problem. I licked one out on my own after consulting with one if dh's friends regarding what dh might like. Package arrived Friday night without my knowing, dh brought it in. We'd it's dropped off ss with bm. I let him open it since it was just us and baby. He was thrilled.