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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 12/09/2014 - 7:58pm

The boys (ds10 and 12 and ss14) were playing outside. Our elderly neighbor lady came over and asked the boys of she could have some of our fruit and she handed them $20. They were of course, excited and started to fill up her cart whike she returned hime.

Dh got wind of what was going on and laid into them : those people sold us our property, they planted those trees, they go to food banks for food and youre going to take their money!!! He's angry and can't get over it. Intel him to let them fill her Cart and have the boys come inside when fine before they go over.

Another Rant about the exH / BD... and yes, it's a long rant.

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 12/09/2014 - 11:56am

OK, I know that many will perceive that I'm the crazy BM here - over scheduling the kids, but it's just not the case.

My boys are each in scouts. Only. He has agreed that scouting is an excellent activity for the boys and wants them to continue, but apparently, not on his time. DD12's doctor even recommended it as a great activity for him as he is an ASD kid - very highly functioning and smart, but extremely non-social.

Help me understand

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 12/09/2014 - 9:57am

Over the weekend, we allowed BM's sister to stay the night at our home after attending a memorial. This is the sister that has always tried to maintain contact with SS14 after BM took off when he was 5.

So the entire weekend, SS hemmed and hawed every time DH would tell him to spend time with his aunt: play a game, go talk with her, take a walk, go be with her. FFS, she's not here to chat with me and I don't really care to spend the day with her but I digress. She's a nice enough young woman.

So he gives her tons of attitude while she's here. Typical.

Dumb Stuff my SS14 says When There Are Sweets

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 12/08/2014 - 4:57pm

I tell the kids they can each have ONE of my truffles that I received from a client. SS looks at me and says, "can I have two"?

We have a big cinnamon role that my mom brought for breakfast for the next day during a family trip. SS asks if we can eat it tonight. My mom says we're waiting till two days in the morning when all kids were here. Next morning (no one else had shown up), he asks again if we can eat it. Answer is the same. He asks again that day after lunch.

My ExH is so lame- minor vent

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 12/04/2014 - 9:45am

So my ex (bf to my three kids) tells me that he "only" had last weekend with the kids to do anything for the holidays. He HS every other weekend and on his next weekend, he is going on a scout trip wth the boys and dd13 has to perform at school in the play for three nights.

He gives me a sob story that he wants to take the kids out to the city. I ask when his mom will be in town since every year he never plans appropriately and I'm always lefty to Rush the kids out for a day with his mom.

Ss14 is upset because dd13 told everyone at school about his violent behavior

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 12/02/2014 - 4:40pm

When DH took SS to school this morning, ss14 told dh that my dd13 told Everyine that he tried to throw me down the stairs while I was holding the baby. SS is embarassed and mad at dd.

Dh basically told him that it was his own fault and that if he was embarassed by his behavior then maybe he should think twice before acting out.

I'm a bitch. I can't stand BM and her crap so this is what she gets.

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 11/27/2014 - 4:02pm

Court order states that on fridays ss14 does not have school that ouch up will take place at mid-location at 7 pm. Bm typically will pick up SS directly from school but she made a big stink stating it was not safe to meet at a vacant school if school was out.

She texted DH yesterday, prior to her (2 'min) court ordered call with SS stating "see you at 5 at meeting spot". Dh didn't answer.

I'm not sure. I'll have to refer to the court order.

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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 7:41pm

This will be dh's new response when BM tries to ask about pick up / drop off times. I'm tired of writing her letters reiterating times just to be met with a snarky response.

I'm not sure, I'll have to refer to the court order. You should too.

This willne dh's standard response of bm has the nerve to ask when she should be picking up her son. And if she's not at designated location at designated time. Oh well.

What did I get myself in to...

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Submitted by step off already on Sat, 11/22/2014 - 6:17pm

Bm's uncle died yesterday. One of the first calls that the son made was to dh. No one in bm's family is on speaking terms with her.

This uncle has been kind to dh and ss, giving dh some inheritance money for SS (from bm's dad).

Anyway... In a moment of compassion, when bm's sister called crying I told her she was welcome SMTP stay with us if she came out for the service as she lives out if state. She was thankful.

But now I'm second guessing myself.

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