I get emotionally tied up in knots thinking about SD and how complicated her life is. She is only 4 years old and already has to question the motives of the very people she should trust to guide her and teach right and wrong.

Even though DH and I have never lied to her or used her, just the things we know BM has said have caused her to question us as to whether or not we are the good people or bad like BM says.

Okay everyone, wish us luck! Dh and I are going for our second attempt to finish the classes he and BM were ordered to take when the case was settled last May. THis is the one both bio parents must attend together, we tried last week and talked to her several times before hand and she insisted she would show and had the money for the class. DH even talked to her the night before to be sure she remembered and the next morn she was a no show.

DH and I made it almost all the way through our first round in court without an attorney, but we had the assisstance of Texas Father's For Equal Rights instructing us on how to file and what the paperwork should look like. We would have finished that way if it weren't for BM's jerk of an attorney refusing to cooperate. He completely ignored us as we tried to do what the judge ordered and schedule mediation.

We would have stuck it to him if we only knew how!

Now as we look at possibly HAVING to go back to court, DH is certain we can do it alone.

So I can see that maybe I'm just paranoid, but I always get such good honest feedback from all of you.

Here's the question, then the explanation.

Is it dangerous for 4yo SD to be with BM when BM has no phone,(house or cell) and no car?

My thoughts are that means if there is an emergency, BM cannot take SD to safety or the emergency room, and she does not have a phone to call for help. That to me is dangerous for SD.

Thursday night was the longest night I've had in a while, worrying about my little sd at BM's.