Okay everyone, wish us luck! Dh and I are going for our second attempt to finish the classes he and BM were ordered to take when the case was settled last May. THis is the one both bio parents must attend together, we tried last week and talked to her several times before hand and she insisted she would show and had the money for the class. DH even talked to her the night before to be sure she remembered and the next morn she was a no show.

The instuctor told us that because it was court ordered we needed to give BM one more chance to attend before we go on without her. What really stunk was DH had taken the day off work and got a speeding ticket on the way there. That was quite an expensive waste of time.

BMdid not come get SD for her possession Thursday-Monday morn. I am thankful because I know what a mess BM has been and how stresses SD has been about being there.

BM did text me the night she was supposed to get SD and asked (which was really nice instead of telling us) if she could get SD on Friday when her grandmother could give her a ride to get SD.

I called her Gma the next morn and asked if that was really the plan and she said yes. Gma told me if Dh and I allowed them to get SD she would personally take responsibility for SD and BM would not be allowed to take her anywhere. I know legally Gma can't stop BM, but because BM has no car and her mom and Gma are afraid for SD in her care I believe she would do all that she could to protect SD.

I text BM back that was fine.

Got a call from her Gma a few hours later she had not heard from BM. But also told me that she knew BM had talked to CPS and CPS had her sign a parenting agreement that she will 1. Stay on her bipolar meds 2. visit her DR regularly and 3. provide adequate supervision for SD when in her care at all times. Gma said it says Cps will monitor BM and if she does not follow the plan they will take further action. No mention of a drug test.

I got off the phone with her and saw I had a message from BM, "Okay thanks, I'm still waiting on my Gma"

I called her Gma and told her of the message, she called BM and called me back. Said BM hung up on her.

BM's mom was with Gma while we were talking and said she thinks BM was mad to realize Gma had talked to me, blowing her excuse for not getting SD and making it obvious she just lied in her text.

Yep, I think that is exactly what it is. I read online about bipolar and lying and how the person can sometimes learn to lie to turn people against eachother just so they can use them to get their own way. Like as long as BM's family and Dh and I never talk to one another BM can lie about us to eachother and use us to get money, help, childcare etc.

I still can't get over talking to BM and finding out BM has not worked for her mom in a year, when she has told me otherwise and brought SD to me twice just this year so she could.

ANd I get mad thinking of how she showed up saying, Oh my sis took my uniform, I'll have to get one from work. Then showed up supposedly after the shift, still not in uniform.

I just don't understand lying. I can't do it, so it just does not make sense to me. It did not matter to me what BM was doing, I am always more than happy to keep SD with me. ALWAYS!

Well, gotta get ready, can't wait to see if BM shows up!

Ya'll have a great day!