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Should lack of concern by SKs bother me?

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sat, 08/24/2019 - 10:22am

A week and a half ago, my mother had a massive heart attack. She had two major blockages in her heart, one that was 100%. Her doctor said he could not explain how she survived, but luckily, she did. It was especially a stressful, difficult time because she was in a hospital an hour away from us, DS18 had to be taken out of state to begin college 3 days later, not to mention the fact my DH and I both have a busy, stressful law practice that had to be covered, plus care of our DS12.

Continuing to process thoughts on vacation situation with SS

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sat, 07/20/2019 - 2:42pm

At the risk of being accused of "complaining endlessly" by posting a 3rd time in as many months about vacation with my oldest SS25, SDIL and 2 SGDs, I am still processing how I feel and how I want to respond in the future. I previously posted about how resentful I was after DH and I rented a beach house and took them on vacation and DH and I had to either buy groceries and cook and clean up for the group or pay for all of us to go out to eat. Several things I've noticed since then concern me.

Almost too tired to post this.

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sun, 07/07/2019 - 10:08pm

I posted a while back about wanting to take a special vacation with my and DH's 2 DS's this year to celebrate my DS18's high school graduation, without oldest SS25, his wife and 2 DDs whom we've taken on vacation and paid for everything the past two years. I especially said I didn't want to rent a beach house due to all the work that falls on me. Because my DS18 wanted to take his girlfriend, we ended up booking the beach house anyway. To get one with enough bedrooms for SS25, his wife and two girls as well, we booked at 6 BR house, which cost $10K for the week going in.

Father's Day question/update

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Submitted by SMto2 on Fri, 06/14/2019 - 8:06am

Aren't Father's Day and Mother's Day the worst when you're a SP? I'm the one whose BM contacted DH about buying a laptop for SS23 to go back to college and take online classes. We haven't seen or talked with SS23 since he came for Christmas. We learned he secretly married his gf a few months ago, and when DH found out about a month after the fact, he called SS23 to talk and left a VM and got no response. I sent SS23 a FB message congratulating him and no response. (I also clicked to follow him on Instagram and have since learned he's blocked me.)

Oh, the nerve!

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Submitted by SMto2 on Wed, 06/05/2019 - 8:45pm

Welcome to the roller coast ride of life with SKs, ladies and gentlemen! I JUST commented to someone this week about things being much better now that my SKs are 23 and 25 and we don't have to deal with BM directly. About 2 days later, my DH received an email from BM advising him that SS23, who dropped out of college two years ago, has decided to return this Fall and saying he needs a new laptop and would DH contact SS23 and make arrangements to pay for it for him?!

Article--Kids are not the most important in a family

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Submitted by SMto2 on Tue, 05/23/2017 - 9:34am

Saw this great article shared on FB about the problems that have resulted from parents elevating their kids to be the most important in the family. Although it seems to reflect a traditional family perspective, I think the issue is magnified X 1000 in step-families.

http://lacrossetribune.com/lifestyles/relationships-and-special-occasion...

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