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The kid barely survived his latest success.

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My SS had his first meeting with a recruiter today. The turd took the ASVAB and ..... missed ONE QUESTION. Three hours worth of test and he missed one f'in question. This is the kid that flunked out of Military School less than a year ago.

Wow, I was proud, pissed and ready to kill him all at the same time. The AF offered him their two best training programs, linguistics and computer programming.

Long: My SS's first court case - Proud Arrow set the precident so I will follow suite.

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My wife became pregnant with our son (my SS) when she was 16 and BioDad was 21. BioDad has a long history of inappropriate if not criminal sexual relationships with minors. They were never married.

My wife graduated from HS with her class and with honors. After graduation BioDad decided that my wife was approaching 18yo and too old for him so he abandoned my wife and SS in a condemned travel trailer to run off with his next 16yo victim.

Is the key to Blended family bliss not recognising the family as blended?

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I have never considered my Skid as anything but my son. Would this work for both resident and non resident Skids?

If a Skid does not behave in accordance with the house rules the kid stays in their room the whole visitation and everyone else goes about their usual business.

Eventually the kid will catch a clue and get on board.

Be careful what you wish for .... SS told me today that he was tired of hearing my opinion on his dating status.

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So, I tease my SS occassionally on not ever asking a girl out on a date. I am teasing when I do this.

Today he and I went to lunch. His mom is out of town for a wedding so it is just he and I for the weekend.

At lunch the waitress took our order. He noticed her, and she noticed him. She was a cutie. After she took our order and left I asked him if he was going to get her number. He gave me a look that would have melted steel then said ... "Dad, I am really sick of you harping on this topic and I wish you would stop." :jawdrop:

It just dawned on me.

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Sometimes the big picture of Sparenting can get pretty overwhelming. When this happens maybe we should look at the little moments that can be fun or at least tolerable.

Or visa versa. When the little moments get aggravating maybe we can look at the big picture.

Regardless of the situation there has to be some direction as Sparents that we can look for our blended family adventure to at least be tolerable.

At least 9hrs of drive time during our 35hr road trip was spent laughing.

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I recently rescued my bride and our kid (my SS-18) from the SpermClan/IL homeland.

We had a great time roadtripping back to Tx. The stops were beautiful, how can you beat, Crater Lake, Eastern OR, Reno, Tahoe, VA City, the N rim of the Grand Canyon, Monument Valley and Four Corners?

Most notable were the laughs we had. The kid (my SS-18) kept his mom and I rolling with laughter and on the verge of tears. I kept the two of them rolling and my wife kept the kid and I in a state of laugh lock.

SS Comment: "I know what she is dealing with. (My dad) is worthless but he is still my dad."

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During our recent visit to the IL homeland we spent time with my wife's cousin who is rushing a marriage due to a pregnancy. During a celebratory dinner Cousin made two comments about her dad. "He must approve of the baby, he left a car seat in my living room" ... a very used, very dirty car seat.

"I did not think that my dad approved of my fiance or of the wedding. But he payed for my dress so he must approve."

When she told him about the wedding he commented "I have spent my whole life trying to get away from trailer trash now my daughter is marrying it".

Ragsmom's wisdom: "A father's work is from sun to sun, but a mother's work is never done"

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My mom was/is a SAHM/Homemaker. She is very good at it. Dad earned the income, mom made the home and is the glue that holds the Rags clan together. My baby bro and I, our wifes and the 4 grand kids, all bonded by mom's incredible love and SAHM skill.

This phrase is not a mom original but she repeated it regularly while we were growing up.

SAHMs provide priceless value to their children, their spouses and their families. The good ones also provide priceless value to their communities.

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