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No gifts please, estranged in-laws!

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As some of you may know, I am estranged from my in-laws (MIL, FIL, SIL) due to their stomping on boundaries, cozying up to BM, sharing info about our lives with her and undermining DH’s parenting. DH still has a relationship with his parents, but since the issues occurred, he has pared down the relationship- not at my request, because I would never tell him not to have a relationship with his family, but because of his loyalty to me as his wife.

Skids influence on young bio kids question

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Hello, everyone. As some of you know, I have an almost 2-year-old toddler with DH and one on the way (currently in 3rd trimester). Skid will be here next month for his winter holiday visitation and as my toddler gets older I worry about skid's influence on him and on the new baby when they are old enough to understand and interact more. Last summer, I caught SS9 being aggressive with DS who was only 8 months at the time (when I was momentarily in the other room and he thought I wouldn't hear him/catch him).

Mother's Day - Do you expect anything from skids?

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Mother's Day is coming up and I wanted to see how many of you get any kind of acknowledgement from the skids, either on Mother's Day or Stepmother's Day the following Sunday (which I think is a poor man's version of Mother's Day, but whatever). I've never heard a peep from skid when we lived in his town or now, though I never expected that he would say anything or that BM or DH would encourage it.

Another question: how many of your DH's recognize BM on Mother's Day, either on their own or with the skids encouragement? How does that make you feel if he does? 

Influence and Parental Time

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Hi all, DH was talking the other day that he hopes his influence on SS9 will help him become a productive, grateful, non-entitled person to help counteract the spoiling and non-parenting that BM does. It got me thinking about how possible that will be, since DH has less than 20% time with SS since we are long distance (out of state). I was encouraging and positive about it when he was talking about it, because I didn't want to be a negative Nancy.

Having a pity party for myself Re: step life

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It’s just one of those nights when I’m feeling depressed and overwhelmed about being a second wife with a SS9 and bm that will be in my life for a majority of it. I didn’t think it would be so hard and, for me, such a mind f*ck. I’m in therapy to help deal with these feelings, but I don’t think I’m as strong as some of you ladies here. I resent my husband sometimes. My relationship with my in laws, which I was looking forward to before we got married is nonexistent because of their allegiance to bm. I wish I could say eff em but I still find it hurtful.

Annoyed- unequal gift giving by inlaws

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Rant- DS just turned one! As a gift inlaws gave him a $20 toy and no card. For SSstb9, they give him cash of at least $50 and several toys/games and those oversized cards.

I plan on just ignoring, but wtf. I know ppl who have birthdays close to Christmas sometimes get the shaft but baby just turned one. They feel sorry for SS because he’s a cod.