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Old habits slipping back

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Ive noticed dh has been on a "YES" KICK latley with SS13. Im trying not to get all "bent outta shape" about it, but his grades have not been great. Dh's mind is on work and when he gets tired and over worked, he falls back to his, yes pattern. I think SS has picked up on it too, because ive noticed him asking dh stuff he would normaly ask me. He also has picked up on asking for apps for his phone.

Hey its been awhile!

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I have not been on. I joined the moms club near me, and dh has been on ss13 about school and chores.(he went to a parent teacher thing, saw ss unfinished work) So its been pretty decent around here.

Dhs grandma passed away before christmas, so dh was a bit of a mess for christmas break. Which means ss was around me more. I feel i have been patient with ss, ignoring certain things, but this acting dumb thing is getting on my nerves.

Parenting bull...

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I hate that we have different parenting styles!! Hate it!!

I feel like with all the stuff that happened, dh is trying to pick on my kid.

Like ss is here all day everyday, my kid is weekends. Dh is trying really hard to find my faults in parenting.

This weekend bs was only here saturday night and sunday. He spent the night at a friends friday. We picked him up saturday afternoon, got back home around 630pm.

No i do not want booty...

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Im just irritated and feeling low. I was ready to talk to this woman today get this whole mess put behind us.

Well dh had a problem on his job so he came home late. Thats fine except he did not inform me!

I make a fast dinner, prepping myself to go over there, trying to keep myself busy, but im totally watching the clock.

Dh calls me says he is on way home, he guesses we are not going over to the mothers house since it will be late. Im not relived at all.

All day i was thinking what will i say? How will she be? Will we get to a point where we are all ok?

Update to- 40year old on phone.

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We talked to ss13. Well dh talked to him first. He asked him how this woman was around him, any touching, ss said no.

So after they talked, we all talked together.

Of course dh did not ask him how the pics came about. I had to press on that.

Ss said- he was at her house, he told her about the photo app. Was showing it to her. And he did not mind cropping/editing photos. Thats why there is no text between pics and the pics were sent back and forth. Then he went on with she does not have the app and something about you have to buy it.

Divorced 40year old woman sent selfie to 13yearold ss!!

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I found this last night!

This is the same woman that bought ss a costume. I check ss phone off and on. I like to keep tabs on him. (Hate me, focus on this if you like, but ill always keep tabs on him)

I wish i could just post pics on here instead of describe what i saw, but ill try to do my best.

Halloween

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Halloween went great!

So fun.

This year dh was very busy so he had no time to take ss13 to the store for a costume. He did not ask me to take him. (I think he was waiting for me to offer, mwahaha, i never did!)

So ss was going on about wanting to get a panda costume, you usually have to order something like that. I told him to look and let us know prices, if he could find in store we could run and get it. If on-line i could order it, but im not doing the work oh no.

Well he never puts in any effort, and im not going to keep asking.

Why do kids/skids ask for things they do not like?

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Ss13 has a friend with a pug, so aww cute...except ss13 is very timid around dogs-any size dog.

He will pet small dogs and some medium dogs, but large dogs nope!
He has a fear because his Aunt(who lives next to mother in law) has a mean dog. So when he was little he was really scared about it biting, because of stories. (that mother in law and cousins told around him)

Either way seeing him around dogs is painful to watch, he is very uncomfortable,nervous, looks like he is ready to run if this dog makes any weird noise.

Feeling crappy

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I made it through the whole weekend without arguing. I stayed far away from ss spend the night. The only time i said anything "parenty" was at 12:30am, dh was snoring but the kid he invited over was just talking and talking and they were banging ss bunkbed against the wall. So i shut that down. That was it though.

Well my good vibes ended yesterday...

Spend the night bull crap

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Ss is having friends spend the night for his belated birthday. Dh was working weekends, then people were sick..so its late but this is his weekend(im not being involved)

Well dh is going over times and details with ME!! Why?

So i call ss out of his room... dh looks annoyed with me, uh. Its not my party.
So dh is asking how he is getting the info to the kids, and it needs to be done tomorrow-no school thur-fri... ss has made if clear he wants to text them the info..ok whatever..as long as they get it right?!

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