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Another Holiday...same reindeer games

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10 months y'all ..I have 10 more months of these reindeer errr...beaver games.

Father's Day....Shared parenting agreement....pick up SD at 8 a.m. from the Beaver damn..and then Beaver picks up SD from our house the very next day at 8 a.m.  Easy right.....sure if your not Beaver.  

DH send SD text..I will pick you up on Sunday at 8 a.m. Be ready..and NO jammie pants we are going out to breakfast and I don't want to take you out in jammie pants and crocs.  Also, please ask your mom what time she will be picking up on Monday.

O/T....need some work advice.....

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I, like Rags lovely bride, have a hard time of letting go of my workplace.  I have been in IT operational support for last 25 years.  To say I'm burnt out...would be a giant understatement.  The oncall at this place is killing me...as its like working 24x7 for about 14 days straight. The expectations are out of hand.  My previous on-call's were just for break fix...as in its broke and I fix it. This job's oncall has morphed into...do work all day....log in at night do work...oh and we need stuff done on the weekend..work then.  

Mother's Day with a step kid and the Beaver

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Ugh....as far as Mother's DAy..DH rocked it out.  2 dozen roses, a trip the local Conservatory and Gardens....then to a local market for food and drink.

We had a mother's day dinner for my mother and my mother in law on Saturday so that I could spend Mother's Day doing things I like rather than cooking for the family.  

However, as usual SD and Beaver had to through some wrenches into the plans.   Would it be a Holidy without step kid/BM drama?

Sh*tty birthday gifts Beaver edition...

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Beaver is notorious for her sh*tty gift giving.  Lets see...

DH when married to her got a food dehydrator for christmas...he didn't ask for one and doesn't eat dehydrated food.

DH also go a boat load of sweaters from Beaver for Christmas..he wears shorts in the middle of winter...sweaters are NEVER part of his attire.  Not even when we go sledding or skiing.

SD has gotten over the years.

A typewriter that doesn't work

A sled to share with her brother..that was her ONLY christmas gift.

A difusser blow dryer...SD has poker straight hair.

PA is not just for divorced families...tales of my mother

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Ugh.....my mother.  I see now why on some levels I am about 100 ways of messed up.  Its my mother....and in some part my Dad.

My mom...only child of a alcoholic father.  As result of my grandfather drinking away all of my grandparents money...my grandmother had to work a lot when my mom was young.  My grandparents divorced after my mom graduated high school....and my grandmother was a really great woman.  I still miss my grandmother to this day. She really was the person I talked to and was there for me.

Reflections....its been a year today since my life blew up

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I'm reflecting today.,  Its been a year to the date since I found out about DH's side activities.  My world as I knew it ..blew up. 

So..while its been quite the year here is what I found.

1.  Our marriage needed a overhaul or to end.  I knew that at the time but was bidding my time till SD was 18.  I didn't want to blow up her life.

2.  I wasn't crazy after all.  For many years I suspected DH's side activities but couldn't prove it.  It was oddly a relief to find out what I suspected for YEARS was in fact the truth.  

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