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Sick to death of DH and his attention to BM.
I am so sick and tired of DH spending every waking moment trying to dig up stuff on BM. They are in a custody battle and child support dispute and he googles BM and her new husband, asks everyone he comes in contact with for any dirt on BM and her husband, etc. I know he wants to be as prepared as possible for court but it's really already a slam dunk. BM is a loser and is married to a recovering drug addict, no job and no intention of finding a job, no stability, etc.
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Going after full custody of SS13. Should I be involved in mediation, legal meetings, etc?
My DH has decided to seek full custody of SS13 since his mother is such a piece of work...unstable, dates abusive men, no job, etc. My question is, how much should I be involved in the legal process of all of this? Should I expect to attend mediation with DH? Or should I just sit back quietly?
Inheritance in step families
My new DH and I need to change our beneficiaries and wills, etc and I'm wondering how other step families have handled this. My girls and I moved into HIS house that his family gave the land to him and he built the house. We have added a $60K addition that I have paid for with the equity from my old house and my name is now on the deed to his house. So, I now have a significant amount of money invested in this house. How should everything be divided upon our death? He has 1 son and I have 3 girls.
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How much involvement should I expect in my new DH's previous life?
I have been married for 1 month but we have been together for 3 years. I feel like I'm just getting to know him in some ways.
My mother's relationship with my Ex.....
I got married on Saturday and my parents kept my children while we were away for the wedding night. Apparently, my mother spoke to my XH on the phone for a significant amount of time (she said 2 hours but I doubt that it was really that long). She told me that she told him that his time was over, he had his chance to make things right with me, etc, etc. Well, XH called me this morning regarding something kid related and he happened to mention that he had a great talk with my mom and that she said some nice things to him. So, now I have to decide:
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Second time in less than 2 weeks
Last night was the 2nd time in less than 2 weeks that I've been called by BM's name. This time, it was by my FMIL. My fiance and his son were trying on their suits for the wedding and we were all sitting around admiring how great they looked and I started helping fiance tie his tie and she said, "Oh JXXXX, are you trying to help him tie his tie?".
I realize that it slipped out and that I'm probably being way too sensitive about it but it happens SO MUCH that I don't know how to be any way other than sensitive.
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Has anyone else been called by the ex-wife's name and how do you handle it?
This has happened multiple times now and I'm so tired of it. It's not my fiance that is calling me by EW's name. It's others....friends, etc. It's very uncomfortable for everyone when it happens. I don't know how I'm supposed to respond. When it happened last night, I just stood there and smiled like nothing was wrong but I was seething inside, of course. Anyone else have any ideas for how to handle it?
Any suggestions for reducing fighting between step brothers and sisters?
Title says it all.....anyone have any suggestions?
By the way, SS13 has ADD and one of the ADD traits is that he is socially awkward and says rude things because he doesn't know what else to say. My BDs 13 & 14 usually respond to his rudeness by saying some smartass comment in return. He gets his feelings hurt and thinks that they hate him. How do I fix this?????
Told FDH how I feel about his parenting....
I finally told FDH how I felt about the way he parents FSS13. I told FDH the following things:
1. I hate it when FSS sits down in the middle of a conversation WE are having and asks what we're talking about. And FDH actually TELLS him what we're discussing. If I wanted FSS to be part of the conversation, I would ask him to join. Even if it's not a private conversation, I feel like it's rude to butt into the middle of a conversation.
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It's really too late to be asking this but am I cut out to marry a divorced man???
Am I crazy? My fiance was married for 12 years (as was I). That's a pretty long time to be married. He shared ALOT with her. How can I marry this man and be second to that? And why does it bother me so much because I had THE SAME THING!!! Am I being selfish for hating that he spent a long time with someone else? How do I get over him being with her?? Please help.