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another SM bites the dust....only she isn't the one leaving.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Fri, 05/01/2015 - 8:40am

After 5 years, I may never have to visit this site again....

DSO is in the process to get help from social services to get SS15 back with him. The help is to get somewhere for SS to go during the summer and to help DSO get a place to live and welfare benefits if he can't work full time due to SS being an asshole.

SS was taken by the state 100% physical and legal. DSO was told if he quit his job, he could regain full custody, not BM though. SS is in a Foster Group home. He was jumped in his bedroom the other nite and this is what led DSO to this decision.

The dentist won't take BMs money?????

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Mon, 04/27/2015 - 8:27am

SD tells DSO last nite that she needs to have sealant put on 6 teeth and its $32 a tooth. So I had to call about Gson so I ask about this. The insurance won't cover those 6 teeth as its optional. We discuss the financials, her parents need to decide etc. I txt DSO with the info. I txt Stupid and say I have made the financial arrangements you can schedule appt.

BM txts DSO and tells him 'The dentist refused her money and he needs to get a check to her by next Monday.

DSO and BM in a bind and SM isn't bailing them out this time

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Tue, 04/21/2015 - 12:12pm

This is sort of an update to this blog:

http://www.steptalk.org/node/214939

So, DSO had his way and took SS to RTC, BUT it wasn't an RTC, it was a foster home. Seems the state stepped in and took physical custody, they already had legal. IDK if BM knew this would happen or was notified, but DSO had no idea until he saw the place he took him and BM got a letter on Saturday.

OT - DSO is a dumbass. Vent. Sorry for Length

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Tue, 04/14/2015 - 7:08am

For me to even start I have to do a back story. I'll try to make it brief. SS15 has had behavior issues his whole life. Preemie, spent 3 months in NICU unit. BM and DSO never really pushed to get good therapy or help for him. He was given an ADD med, that had no effect, but never did any psyche testing or pushed to a good psyche doctor. By internet reading and a conduct disorder forum, I tried to steer DSO to better help but he refused to listen to me....he just wanted a pill to make him normal.

I just laugh when I see SS15 hasn't changed a bit.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Tue, 04/07/2015 - 9:54am

I don't blog like I did a few years ago, so quick recap:

Skids were taken from BM 5 years ago...3 skids at the time. OSS is aged out. YSS15 moved back to BM 3 years ago. SD stays with us bc she knows that we try and provide the things normal kids want like her own room, tv, Ipod and a cheap cell to text and call only lol....Yea, we spoil her like BM says.

A girls weekend, SD's BFF twin friends and the dreaded letter of too many absenses

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Mon, 03/23/2015 - 8:16am

First off: I have taken my life back. Since DSO seems the need to get SS15 every weekend, I have started to do things on my own. A little girl cousin weekend trip was spur of the moment and felt great to not sit on a couch in my bedroom yet again.

DSO comes to pick me up Sunday, I didn't want DD to drive all the way to my house after a 3 hour drive. I can see DSO is upset about something...especially when he says nothing and don't start asking me whats wrong 500 times....yes, that's usually mean something with his kids is up.

When BM can't afford a phone card or internet anymore = PRICELESS.

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Sun, 02/22/2015 - 5:46pm

She only has the free phone now with limited minutes and texting. Amazing how much of her prior contact with DSO was complete BS now that she can only do it when necessary or an emergency.

The best part is that SS15 can't text 15 times a nite asking DSO to bring him $50, $20, or even $5 to go buy a pop or candy.

Another PITA step kid moment

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Sun, 01/25/2015 - 10:15am

Was posting under a new name but decided to go back to this one so ppl know who I am.

SS15 is out on probation until they can get him into a "Better" treatment center for his behavior problems. SS is 15 now and you would think he would have grown up some, especially since he has been in treatment centers, juvie for 2 years.

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