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"Inform us." "Consult us."

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 09/18/2014 - 6:49pm

It stuns me how many people say bm didn't "tell/inform/ask/consult with us." Bm isn't obligated to tell/ask/inform/consult sm. She's obligated to do those things with dad and then HE should say something to sm. I have no desire to consult with bm. Ever. And if I had a child whose sm thought she should have as much of a say as me/ex in big decisions, I'd tell her to tell my ex her opinions.

Maybe this is the best way to handle pas?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 09/06/2014 - 10:40pm

I read something somewhere about the alienated parent keeping a civil distance from the alienated kid. Meaning, don't force visits. Let the kid reach out to the alienated parent when ready. This article said that this approach creates less tension and conflict for the alienated kid.

Sometimes I think this would be best for not just the alienated kid, but for the SPs involved.

What a wacky week it's been here!

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 08/28/2014 - 12:46pm

The events that come to mind:

1. Sm writing bm a letter. I'd rather walk on hot coals than write bm a letter telling her how I feel about her receiving what she is LEGALLY entitled to. Anyone who wants to come here and complain about BMs reaction to them telling her how they feel shouldn't expect much. Never let bm know she gets under your skin. And don't get into a dispute with bm over things the law finds her to be entitled to. If it's a big deal to the dh he should bring it up in court.

A few things on my mind

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 07/25/2014 - 11:43am

And they're not going to be real popular but here goes.

1. Why do so many people stay? Are these guys great in the sack?

2. Maybe minor sks pick up on our feelings towards them and that's part of why they act out. Some of the hatred I read about minors here is frightening.

3. Why blame the kids? Blame the people who made them that way. Stop giving the dads sex, love and comfort until they start parenting. Be pissed off at THEM. Let THEM feel your anger.

"Mini wife" behavior

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 07/11/2014 - 10:23pm

What qualifies as mini wife behavior and what does not?

Spooning dad, showing your boobs to dad, etc, I get how that's mini wife behavior. But I think so many dads have let it go on for so long that they're sick. Anyone who lets that stuff happen is sick.

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