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did anyone watch Dr. Phil today?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Wed, 01/08/2014 - 12:48pm

Did you hear what the BM accused the dad of?

I went to the website to read a synopsis of the show. The dad was accused of sexually abusing the kids.

Apparently this BM had a bad concussion many years ago. Even the dad agreed with that, and said she's not been the same since.

That said, I hope the kids go live with their dad and that she gets lots of help.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 10:33am

I don't know about you, but one of my New Years resolutions is to try to make my life more peaceful.

If this is one of your resolutions, or you simply strive to find more peace in your life overall, you should check out Our Family Wizard and all of the links on their website. It's a software designed to help minimize the conflict and tension between exes who share kids.

Ever think about what you'd be like as a bm?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 12/23/2013 - 6:37pm

I do.

I know it'd be hard on me and on the inside, I'd probably want to claw the eyes out of ex and sm. But I know I'd be civil for my kids. I know I wouldn't involve them in adult issues. I know I'd use legal avenues/ routes instead of using my kids as weapons and dragging them into what should be adult bs. If ex and I couldn't come to an agreement I'd request we get a mediator to get us to a compromise, and I'd not involve the kids.

I know it'd be he11 on me but I've dealt politely with other tough issues, so I'd use that life experience to help me.

How do your DHs/SOs plan explaining to your skids why they never married their moms, but had kids with them

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 12/23/2013 - 1:55pm

I'm asking because this does seem like a very recurring thing on this site and in real life, where people don't get married but do have kids with someone. And I have to wonder if a lot of kids will be thinking, "gee, dad, you didn't care enough about mom to marry her but you did care enough to stick your d!ck in her at least once?" Same with many BMs who have multiple kids with multiple men.

Where's the fine line between moving on from your ex but letting them be in your kids lives? What does it mean

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Tue, 12/17/2013 - 1:21pm

My SDs BM had trouble with this. I know it because of her behavior. She wanted nothing to do with DH. I don't think she wants him back. He definitely doesn't want her back. But she didn't want him in the kids' lives either. A judge rightfully told her that the kids need their dad. But I guess her behavior, and that of so many other BMs, makes me wonder where that fine line is and what it means.

For me, it means:

OT sort of-the kid who killed 4 people driving drunk

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sun, 12/15/2013 - 6:50pm

Did you hear about the plea agreement he got?!

It made me so frustrated. Nobody has held this kid accountable. Not the system, not his parents, etc. He at least should have got some time in juvie. I wonder if he feels remorse, or sympathy for the victims and their families.

He should've been made to at least do a few years in juvie and undergo counseling. And his "parents" should not only lose custody, but be paying hefty fines and sitting in jail.

CS- do you think it's BMs money?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 12/09/2013 - 3:55pm

I saw the blog on the petition to make CS like an EBT card. It got the wheels turning in my brain.

It irks me to no end to see how many people do not use CS on their kids. But I also believe it is their money. The check was made out in the CP's name. The CP deposited it. So legally, it is their money. Many people seem to say, "It's the kids' money." No, it is not. It is money the NCP gave to the CP. It is now the CPs money that *should* (emphasis on "should") be used on the kids.

If you think your skids (or any kids) are being abused/neglected

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Tue, 12/03/2013 - 12:25pm

*Also on General Discussion and on the regular ST page*

Here's some info for you. You CAN do something. You SHOULD do something. Your local government is corrupt? Get the feds involved. Talk to other adults outside the home that the kids know. Talk to their teachers/write/email them. Even if you don't know the teachers, they're mandated to report any claim of abuse/neglect they get on their students. Go to your local police station/troopers/sheriff's office. There are many, many channels you can use. If one doesn't work try another one.

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