A few things on my mind
And they're not going to be real popular but here goes.
1. Why do so many people stay? Are these guys great in the sack?
2. Maybe minor sks pick up on our feelings towards them and that's part of why they act out. Some of the hatred I read about minors here is frightening.
3. Why blame the kids? Blame the people who made them that way. Stop giving the dads sex, love and comfort until they start parenting. Be pissed off at THEM. Let THEM feel your anger.