Sd13 and Ss12 there still upto their stepford behaviour.
The robotic stepford child beheaviour continues...GRRRR
SO and I are at a cross-roads. I suggested that maybe we be affectionate to try to break the cold behaviour that they're showing and he's all down for that, and he's also alright with being poliet back, but he does not want to be "nice" to be cold, but instead to get a reaction out of them.
When would be the right time for SO to have the "enough is enough" conversation?(today is thanks-giving), or should be just "play along" to get a reaction out of them and not talk to them about it
The "stepford" child behaviour continues....
I'm starting to think they don't are at all. They have been showing NO emotion to SO at all. SO isn't begging them for it, but it's getting to him, but he doesn't show it. Last night we decided to carry out a conversation, and Sd13 and Ss12 had their own conversation; after the usual "thank you for making us food"......
Bm brought Sd13 and ss12 as she said she would. The second the door bell rang, SO jumped and opened it.
They looked off. Had blatant looks on their faces, no emotions at all. SO greeted them, and they said "hello dad" , "hello Mrs. Marvel". Noting strange about that.
SO leads them to the dinning room and tells them, he needs to talk to them. He first aks them how they were. response "fine, thank you for asking; how are you?" He responds with "I'm good"
SO talked to BM about bringing the skids here on Monday (his week)- with no exceptions, and she's say she going to be bringing them regardless whether they want to or not.
I told SO that it might be a good idea to get the skids a new therapist, he agreed to that, but when I asked him about taking the tough approach with his kids, he got pretty defensive, saying that last time we did that, he didn't get to see them for nearly a month, and he's not doing that again. Okay that part I can understand, the kids have every right to see their dad, but they don't get to control our lives. He's becoming very defensive about them a lot lately. I don't he sees them as manipulating him. To him there these innocent little angels.
I've been dating fiancé for 3 years, we have a great relationship, He is the man of my dreams. The only problem is that his kids (sd13 and ss12) HATE me!
Fiancé and Bm have 50/50 custody arrangement, and they're friendly with eachother. Their divorce wasn't dramatic at all, it was pretty peaceful; they actually are happier being friends than husband and wife. I've even meet bm a couple of times; she's a wonderful woman.
i've only been married to dh for a year and half, and my marriage is already dissolving. Me and dh only fight about one thing ss14. This kid the most cunning, cold, hateful, evil brat i've ever seen, but he's very smart about showing it. To everyone else he's this warm, caring, respectable kid, but to me, he's the complete opposite. bm is not in the picture, so dh has ss all the time.
dh does parent ss, he's not a disney dad. Ss follows the rules, has chores, does this homework. On paper ss is a great kid. He is a great kid to EVERYONE, just not me.
Me and Dw have been together for 6 years and married for 3. Dw has 2 kids (Sd16 and Ss 16-twins)from a previous marriage while I have non (never married). My relationship with sd is pretty much non-existant because all she does is manipulate, cry, and whine to dw to get anything she wants, and she knows that B.S won't work with me. Unlike dw, I call her out on her crap and hold her accountable for her actions, this causes her to run to mommy; which causes us to have legendary fights. She comes at me and says that i'm just picking on her, i don't love her, etc etc.
I am about to lose my husband because of his 13 year old son. He moved in with us a year ago without my consent; my husband didn't talk to me about this before it happened, he conveniently threw it in during a conversation 5 minutes before his son knocked on the door with his clothes. I have tried for a year to get over this but I can't. I have a 12 year old growing daughter who is no relation to this kid and I am not comfortable with him living in the house. He bullies her and doesn't like her. I don't know what to do, I feel like the best thing for me to do is seperate from my husband.