Thinking about divorce due to Sd behaviour and Dw enabling, but i'm worried about ss
Me and Dw have been together for 6 years and married for 3. Dw has 2 kids (Sd16 and Ss 16-twins)from a previous marriage while I have non (never married). My relationship with sd is pretty much non-existant because all she does is manipulate, cry, and whine to dw to get anything she wants, and she knows that B.S won't work with me. Unlike dw, I call her out on her crap and hold her accountable for her actions, this causes her to run to mommy; which causes us to have legendary fights. She comes at me and says that i'm just picking on her, i don't love her, etc etc. I'm always made to look like the bad guy by sd and dw falls for it . Fights have gotten so bad over sd behaviour, that i've decided to disengange from sd not just to save my mariage, but my sanity too, but i told dw that if sd is gonna stay in my house (my name is on the deed and it's completly paid off) that sd will respect me and the rules. I wasn't the cause of dw and her ex marrage in case you guys were wondering. Her ex just walked out of their lives when the kids were 4..
SS on the other hand is a different story. Dw favours Sd so much that she completly ignores ss. You would think this would make ss to act out right? Wrong!. Ss is very resiliant and mature for his age. He behaves way better than even me when I was his age. He even acknowleadges that dw favors sd and that he's thankful for it cause it forced him to mature and grow up faster, so he's better prepared for the real world and sd will "crash and burn when reality hits her"(his words exactly). This of course makes me really sad for ss. SS has even told me that if it weren't for me, he probably wouldn't be where he is today (I disagree of course). Both sd and ss are 16, but ss got to skip grades 2 and 3 when he was younger because he was showing signs of exceptionality, so he was put in grade 4 when he was supposed to be in grade 2. Not only did he graduate from high school this past june, but he was the class valadictorian of his graduating class; he's starting university in september-free ride btw but since he also plays soccer very well, he was also offered a soccer scholarship too. Sd on the other hand barely passed grade 10 and is going to grade 11. Ss is very pleasant to be around, he respects everyone except sd(they hate each other, and i don't really blame him). A lot of our friends and the whole family even say that ss much more pleasant to be around than sd. Me and ss are very close . We always laugh, crack jokes with eachother, workout together, taught him how to drive, me and ss can talk can literally talked for hours about god knows what, and all we do is laugh. He's a really good kid and honestly i truly believe that he will make it far in life. I would have loved to have that kind of relationship with sd but she decided to lie, steal, and be disrepectful which is why I have backed away from her. I don't ignore her. My interactions with her are very short, but i'm very polite to her, but she's very hostile towards me, so I back away.
I don't know how to get dw back? She's the love of my life and the last thing I want is a divorce, but if things don't change, i'm afraid we are going to end up with one. I'm also willing to try for ss's sake. He's very perceptive about things and one time he overheard me and dw arguing (we thought no one was home); he told me that if me and dw get divorced, he'll end his life because i'm the only one that's ever cared about him. This worries me deeply.