How do you get a BM to keep her kids? I don't want to straigt out say I don't want your kids(that might scar them)but I want them out of my home. Does anyone know how to word a conversation that may make her decide to keep them, she already has one living with her and I want her to take the other one. I just don't want to hurt DH by saying I don't want your kids here, and he is already stressed out, and is very unhappy with his kids behavior. What do I do?

skids aren't here, house is at peace! I just hope they don't come home again! I wish their BM would just keep them! My kids went to a family dinner and were well behaved and came home and put their laundry away, had a snack and quietly went to bed, we got to have a great day with kids that are well behaved and loving (not perfect) but great kids. I am so glad his monsters didn't go! Yesterday we went to another family dinner and they were fighting and screaming and they broke things and were taking toys away from the littler kids! they are absolute monsters!!!!

This is it. Gloves are off and BM is in for it.

We was BM in the grocery store on Xmas eve. SD was holding my hand and I felt her grip tighten when she saw "Mommy". DH says to SD, "go say hi to mom", Sd pipes up "Hi". So Dh says "No sweety go give her a hug and kiss" so SD (three and a half years old) runs over to mom, gives her a quick kiss and hug then runs back and grabs my hand, almost breaking fingers I should add. Right infront of BMs best friends. So we chit chat alittle bit and carry on our way.

Well, again, my SS16 has managed to controll our holiday~ We started by the kids( my 2 daughters) and the evil SS16 coming out of their room to see what santa brought, Girls were thrilled, began exploring their gifts- a DS and a camera- while SS16 sat on the loveseat and wouldnt touch his new XBOX 360 .... finally after much coaching from my husband, be managed to grunt a bit! Then off to stocking from santa! girls again, carefully explored what was inside, while asshole sat there and wouldn't even look, later while I was making breakfast, he dumped it out and shoved it all back in...

So, skids made out on Christmas! They received at least 9 gifts each from my mom and step-dad...BF received more gifts than I did from my own family...skids got EVEN more from my grandparents! The skids also recieved money from my Dad which I am "stealing" because the brats won't even know if it's gone....it's going. In their savings account!

so BM is trying to buy the love of 2 of her kids. CRAZY and they are buying into it. SO much drama, and it is xmas. by the way, my bf and i got engaged. am i ready to deal with this???? i am over all of it and getting really angry. BM does not deserve any of her kids. is it wrong to feel that way???

Hi to all- my husband has 2 grown daughters, 18 and 26, who abso;utely hate me- while he also has a 9 yr old who resides with us, and is wonderful-- although i worry every day about her eventually feeling the same as her sisters; not justifiably- but simply due to the stupidity of puberty, or pressure from her sisters
The two older girls have refused to be around me at all since February

Do you ever think that BM has found your profile and comments here? What is your proof? Is it in what they say?

I don't think BM has seen what I have said here, but this is for the BMs who do:

BM,

we don't like the feelings we have.

We don't like our negative feelings about you, the kids and your family.

We wish you'd use the child support on the kids.

We wish you wouldn't bash us or the kids' fathers in front of or to them.

We wish you wouldn't withhold visitation.

We wish you'd treat us with respect as humans.

Well I have not been on in awhile, because things were going great. BM moved an hour away 2 times since we won placement in January 09. She moved in July of 09 and again in November of 09 and eventhough I think it sucks for my step son to move again and againg BM is only putting more nails in her cuffin. She swore to the court she was not going to move and that is why she should have placement because ss was going to head start where she lived, because she signed him up without telling Dad!!!

SS12 just called. He's bummed.

BM told him that she wished Santa had never come, all because SS8 is tired and crabby. They partied way late last night with her family.

I feel sad for the boys, I would be devastated if my parents had said that to me at their ages.

I'd like to say: "BM get a clue. The boys were up late last night and need a nap!"

I hope all of you StepTalkers Have a Merry Christmas!

Thanks for listening to my vent.

~BettyRay