SD 33 calls up my husband two days before Chiristmas to request that he meet with her so that she can drop off my minor BDs Christmas presents. We were going to put money in a savings bond for sgkids but H decided that he could not tell her that we would not accpet these gifts to my BDs and wanted me to go buy presents to give to sgkids instead of the bond and card 2 days before christmas!

My hubby and I have been married 3 years but together for 5. We have a daughter together and I have a son from a previous relationship.My SD has always gave me trouble. Her mom died two years ago. Her brother and her moved in with us. She's rough! She's been diagnosed with conduct disorder. She beats people in the head, kills animals, is very selfish, keys peoples cars, compulsive liar. Someone is always in trouble at my house because of her(until I wised up) If I fix her hair, she messes it up. She whined for two weeks for me to re-pierce her ears, she took them out.

Our SIL and BIL invited us over for a holiday party on Christmas Day. They had asked my husband if he wanted them to invite his two older children. He said no - that they had refused to talk to him all year so he saw no reason for inviting their drama to a party with family and friends! Besides they had refused SIL's last two invitations to a baby shower and to their new grandchild's christening so we did not think that not inviting them would be a big deal(no RSVP - just did not show up- part of their continuous will we or won't we show up drama).

I have a 5yr old boy as a stepson and his mom has always had problems with me she doesn't like and I have no clue why, She has recently started calling my house asking to talk to her son and I know she just wants to talk to my fiancee am I being paranoid? or jealous? for no reason I know when her boyfriend is around she doesn't bother to call. I know later on when she breaks up with her bf she will take it on me and my fiancee what do I do should I not answer the phone when she calls? I already told my fiancee I don't want her to call here but he tells me I have nothing to worry about.

As great and wonderful as yesterday was, today is just the opposite. I've not been working as I should. I've been reading blogs and I'm feeling sad, depressed, angry and ready for a fight. Am I the only geek here or has anyone watched Battlestar Gallactica - the new one? You know how Starbuck was always ready for a fight and goaded people on? That's how I'm feeling today. So, Kevin, bring it on! I'm 40, I'm bitchy, I'm crampy, and kicking somebody's ass would really make me feel better. Zen's husband, that goes for you too.

I married into a step-father role with a SD who was 5 yo at the time of my marraige to her mother. Biofather was out of the picture mostly until SD reached the age of 13. SD and I had a great relationship until she hit 13 yo when I had to hold some limits on her, and she did not like that. As a stepdad I did everything a loving father does, and paid for most everything she needed. I loved her as my own child. Then at SD's age of 13 biofather reappeared and started his terrible PAS on steriods behavior, very relentlessly.

this is my first time online..where I live there are no support groups or counseling for stepmoms. I thought I would try this before I filed for a divorce. I have been married 9yrs sd14
moved in with us 7yrs ago. have biodaughter 6. Able to disengaged when it wasn't affecting my bd

Well, the kids all arrived Dec 24 and left the 27th.
All were very kind and nice to me. They were quite interested in My life of course and my children, grands, educations etc etc. My hobbies & business etc. How lomg I've been a widow, questions about MY likes & dislikes..just general conversations NOTHING to prying YET LOL

So I am trying to disengage. Does disengaging mean not being there? If I am there he will rope me into doing everything. I don't know what to say to him when we are at home to disengage. you know without leaving the house. Last night I went to my class and sure enough I got a call at 7:45 saying are you on your way home? I said yes, just finished my class, he said ok we were waiting on you to eat dinner, I said I am not going to eat dinner, (in my mind I'm thinking it's 8:00 have you not fed your kids) I said go ahead and eat sweetheart, no need to wait on me.

I used to like myself and I try to live a kind and fair life. I believe in 'The Power of Now' and such like, yet I just can't seem to get my head around being loving to my SD16. She is actually a very good kid. I just hate living with her. Petty little things become big issues that I can't seem to get past. I just grit my teeth and try not to think about them. I rarely try to find a solution to the little irritations now as that just seemed to make things worse.

I know I should be able to change the way I see things and I'd be much happier if I did.