SS12 just called. He's bummed.

BM told him that she wished Santa had never come, all because SS8 is tired and crabby. They partied way late last night with her family.

I feel sad for the boys, I would be devastated if my parents had said that to me at their ages.

I'd like to say: "BM get a clue. The boys were up late last night and need a nap!"

I hope all of you StepTalkers Have a Merry Christmas!

Thanks for listening to my vent.

~BettyRay

I had posted about my anxiety on visiting my family in another state.

Well, we went, stayed in a motel and it was ok.

It was nice to have our own space, but it was strange not staying with family. It was very much less stressful. However, my dad was very sick, so I did not get to spend as much time with him as I would have liked. My father's wife decided to change WHERE the party was going to be, from her home to my sister's, at the last minute.

My Christmas Wish stepwise, is that BM lets DH take full custody of their son, and he lives with us permanently. He transfers schools, and sees BM every other weekend, with her driving half way to pick up her son and to drop him off with DH.

Also she would get NO MORE child support for him, and we wouldn't ask her for any. And the cherry on top? Letting me adopt my SS so she's no longer such an influence in his life.

It's a wish that will never ever come true, but at least I can dream about it.

Merry Christmas to all!

Ok...so I know it's Christmas, and I'm trying hard to temper my feelings... but shit my DH coddles his baby 8 year old son sooo much it just makes me want to vomit. Today the "shrine" is bothering me... what do I mean by this? On DH's night stand he keeps a big picture in a frame of SS8, it's huge... on My dresser I have pictures of all the kids doing various things... SS included... I said to him

So today is our day w/ SS1 and BM decided to take him w/ her to her new bfs parents house over 2 hrs away. Her BF who she has only been w/ for maybe 2 wks. I was wondering what we can do about this since she is denying us our time and took him during our time. If you have been through this before or know what we should do about it please let me know. Also she randomly changed his bedtime from 9 to 8 to shorten our time. Is there anything we can do about that? I know he isnt going to bed even at 9 because he sleeps w/ her and everytime we get him he just sleeps the entire time.

I just read about the needle boy from Brazil and it seriously made me physically ill. Number one, it is one of the most horrifying and disgusting cases of child abuse I have read about. That anyone could give a child alcohol until they passed out and then stick needles in them in an effort to kill them is the most horrible thing i've read in a long time!!!!!! Apparently, the psycho step-father did all this in an effort to get revenge on the mom. They didn't say what the revenge was for, but I think it's irrelevant.

We have court tomorrow morning to decide if BM gets to see my SS7 and SS8 for Christmas. We have received a letter from SS8's therapist that visits aren't the best for him emotionally and notes from a few visits to show how she violated a court order with the boys during a visit. I ask for prayers that the Judge decides against the visit. Only because they just had a visit with her on Sunday the 20th and SS7 had a mental breakdown because he didn't want to see her and he begged us not to make him see her.

Bm called today to find out when she can bring her boys over for Christmas, she wanted to do that today, I made excuses and said we were too busy today, so she is bringing them tommorrow. In the background I heard" we don't want to go today, take us over tommorrow night and then pick us up at noon!!" The little brats are only interested in getting gifts!! they don't want to be here for family dinner, and they don't want to go to family gettogether later that night and another one on boxing day, It's all about what they might get!!! Greedy little brats.

Step-demon once again pulled the wool over my trusting eyes. And this time I really wanted to believe in her ability to change and feel remorse. I'm an idiot, a fool and so damn dumb. I was even ready to come up with a nice nick-name for her here on ST because of her actions over the last few visits.

So, now he's re arranged our whole Christmas because the winey child wants to open gifts tonight, we were scheduled for opening christmas eve morning since they will be back with BM on Christmas morning. I will skip my workout to go home and do this. I don't know why he can't just stick with the plan. Frustrating.