I’m very much in love with my boyfriend; his children are very sweet and generally well behaved. The issues I am having are probably quite common, but I feel completely unable to cope. Background on the family- My boyfriend, umm let call him Bob, was with the EX for 6 years, 2 before they had kids and 4 years, off and on after having the kids. We’ll call the kids Jack-8 and Jill-6. The EX has a long history of taking off for lengths of time without even attempting to contact her children. Bob is really the only parent they have; regardless of the fact that EX lives in the same small town.

Her biopsy came back fine- now she's preparing for surgery on a slipped disk in her neck, or something like that. The skids are fed up with her, after the "cancer" stunt she pulled most of the summer. She's also really jealous of Princess going away to college.

I found this sight - and started to write out my long story with the history of the BM (which I thought stood for 'bad mother' before I read the FAQ...its fitting!) and me and my DH...but its just too long...

My problem is that she's just a bad person - she's not abusive or an addict... in fact she's the opposite. She's kind, and nice, and sweet, and relatable, and she makes you feel all warm in fuzzy inside... and then you walk away like what the HELL JUST HAPPENED!!!

I am married to the love of my life who I love more than anything!!! I was going through a ruff time 5 months ago. I decided to leave and start to move on with my life and let him do the same. After 2 months he entered into a relationship w a women and got her pregnant 2 weeks after they were together. We do not have any children of our own and we tried for 5 years and had a miscarriage. It is hard because all the first of having a child, he will have with another women.

So what do you do when you want adjust the visitation schedule but can't afford the huge expenses of an attorney? Right now BF has kids every other weekend, every other holiday and 2 weeks in the summer. He would like to add 1 night during the week, every other birthday and more time in the summer. I know she would fight this tooth and nail!

What's considered 'normal' visitation? It seems like what he wants to ask for isn't out of the ordinary. But we won't be able to afford an attorney. Any advice?

Hello! This is my very first Blog entry EVER! I Googled "what do you do if you do not like your Step Son" (which I feel horrible about) and StepTalk.org came up....I read the first post and it sounded like I had written it myself....so I figured after 6 years of being "alone" it might be nice to talk to other people who are in a similar situation as myself....and perhaps get rid of the horrible feeling of "ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww" that I get when I hear my stepson walk in the front door of our house.

Oh my oh my ....this is insane...what was she thinking?

http://www.truecrimereport.com/2010/08/dr_jacquelyn_kotarac_dies_in_c.ph...

I found this website while looking for a resource to help me in my feelings of loneliness and depression as a fairly new step-mom. I have been married for a couple years now and I think the situation with my step kids is much worse that when we were first married.

I'm sure this varies but I find it interesting. In my situation, I live 10 hours from my family. The only people who have met my stepkids are my sister and some friends who have visited. Neither of my parents have come to visit me here, I always go to them, and it's too long of a drive to take the skids. Plus, BM would probably never allow her kids to go for a week with MY family. Hopefully things will change so one day we can take them there, because it is a fun place!

I'm the SM to SD16 and SD stb 11 me and FH have been living together for almost 3yrs. SD16 is not his bio child but he raised her from 1yr old. I have never met BM and and only saw her for the first time this May. They were together for 7yrs, I have met alot of their friends and between them and FH have never heard anything nice about her. She also treats FH like shit etc. I just lost my mother in march and his mother has severe health problems and was in the hospital for a week in july. I suggest we go visit her a 16hr drive one way,the last time we saw her was Nov 07.