I'm the SM to SD16 and SD stb 11 me and FH have been living together for almost 3yrs. SD16 is not his bio child but he raised her from 1yr old. I have never met BM and and only saw her for the first time this May. They were together for 7yrs, I have met alot of their friends and between them and FH have never heard anything nice about her. She also treats FH like shit etc. I just lost my mother in march and his mother has severe health problems and was in the hospital for a week in july. I suggest we go visit her a 16hr drive one way,the last time we saw her was Nov 07.