So, I recently put up my money (I earned it alone) to help add a two car garage and a bigger master bedroom to my DH's existing home. The plan: I put up the money, we do a cash, put my name on the deed, take the money from the cash out to compensate what I spent.

1. I know some of you may think I'm an idiot for putting my money in without being on the deed. You're right! I should've thought this through more carefully. .

2. SS22 lives here with us in his own room. Obviously, I want him out.

I copy & pasted it, i want everyone to see because it is so on target.

That's very, very, very typical behavior. Rather than change her, the best thing you can do is to read a few books and see professionals talk about her behavior. Then get your DH to read the books (some, like "Stepmonster" and "The Smart Stepmom" can be read in a day), so that he realizes how typical his kid's behavior is. That way, he can see his kid's behavior for what it really is, rather than continually trying to figure out what you did to deserve it. It's a shift in focus.

It seems since I have gotten with DH we have had problem after problem with BM and having SS. She is now not allowed to call his phone unless SS is sick or there is an emergency situation, she is only allowed to email. Which mean I get my H back! There is no more crazy one o' clock in the morning phone calls or bar texts. We actually get to enjoy our time with SS and hopefully she is going to calm down the more DH puts his foot down. Lets just hope I am not celebrating too soon!

I posted last week he had a date. Well it didn;t go as well as he hoped. He took her to a festival in town on sat. The girl ran into some of her friends which included a boy that they all were going to go to the movies without my son. He came home really upset.

Although when he got home he said that this girl didn;t make it out of town before her mom found out and she had to go and got grounded for what she did. Plus on the bus on her way to school yesterday she got sick and had to go home.

Well isn;t karma a b!tch?

Just heard that Asshole #1(Steven Hayes) in the (Connecticut) Petit Family Murders has been found guilty on 16 out of 17 counts. Bring on the death penalty for this asshole! I listened to some of the court reports and the things these guys did to those girls and their mom is monsterous and they both need to die for it!

I came down with a stomach flu Friday, and ended up being admitted to the hospital for extreme dehydration. First kid free weekend in 3 weeks straight, the most gorgeous weather we have had since spring, and I spent it with the non-sparkley vampires drawing blood every few hours.

I have been dealing with SD issues for 12 years and finally found a place to let it all out. So some posts might have happened a while ago but still linger on my mind. Here's another...what do you think.....step daughter was 13 at the time, now 14 and she had the flu so she couldn't come over on her weekend so instead dad went to her house for about 30 mins on day the following week. We have 2 cats...SD wanted dad to bring over one of the cats for her to play with bc she said it made her feel better.

DH sent me a text telling me the his friend's wife sent him a text telling him about their new baby's christening. I had already gone to bed when he sent this. These friends are friend's of H and BM so she will most likely be there. His text to me was not an invite but more like a notice of his plans. I looked at his phone this morning and the friend asked for our address so she could send an invite to US. H sent me the text telling me about it and them immediately texted the friend to say "it will only be me".

There's a (valid) argument that kids or skids can't be held accountable for certain behaviours because it's a failure of the parent to teach them properly. It comes up a lot here, that we shouldn't resent the kids, they are upset, confused, etc and they are the way they are because they haven't been taught any better, right?

These kids who lie, bully, demand, manipulate, lack compassion and so forth grow up to become people who lie, bully, demand, manipulate and who lack compassion, don't they?

After a good solid month of BM and skids drama I finally got some good news today! Unrelated to BM and skids. Which is nice to feel I have something else than all that bullcrap!

I'm going for my final interview this week for a PT job I've been interviewing for since late August. I'm very excited. The commute is very short, it's only PT, so I can do my self employed projects as well. It's a good starting point with this company that has many openings, but I want to slowly work into other positions.

Cheers everyone...have a good Tuesday!