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When did you know relationship w SKs was a bust?

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Wed, 01/15/2014 - 2:04pm

Wondered how other SMs and FSMs met their man and when/how they met their skids. Also wondered if you knew right off that SKs were great, evil, so-so or what. How long did it take you to realize that the relationship with them was a nightmare in progress? Was it always great? Did it start good and then disintegrate?

Question really for benefit of my SO: disengaging from an ADULT biodaughter

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Wed, 01/08/2014 - 9:45am

(Posted it on Bio/Step Dad Forum as well)

This is more for the benefit of my SO but have any of you bio-fathers (or SM's with biodad husbands) felt it necessary to "disengage" to a certain degree with your adult biodaughter as a result of their behavior towards YOU specifically?

Total TMI in my opinion: BM talking to SO

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Tue, 01/07/2014 - 8:53pm

BM talked to SO tonight about SS12's basketball this weekend. During conversation it was also brought up that she needs new med insurance info for kids which just changed at SO's company on Jan 1st. He says, sure, he will scan docs and email them tonight. BM then tells him she needs them before x time because she's not feeling well due to thyroid meds (oh? The ones you need now to live on since you had to have whole thyroid removed yet you still think it's a good idea to drink like a fish on? Those meds?) and wants to go to bed early.

Curious: How much of problem is DH/SO/DW and not actually SKs?

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 3:26pm

As StepKat posted earlier on a different topic, this is not a question meant as a judgement but more as a curious observation.

How many of you posters (male AND female) would say that your problems/issues/stresses stem just as much if not more so from your current relationship with your SO/DH/DW/BF/GF etc than really with the SKids?

Not that the SKs may not be a pain in the butt but it's more the dealing with your mate that causes the tension over the kids (step or bio.

Anyone else get really suspicious over little things?

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Fri, 01/03/2014 - 2:52pm

BM is a selfish, narcissistic brat. Shocker, I know. She plays games, only cares how something affects her, and likes to try and emotionally blackmail SO ("a real father would xxxxx", "you pay more attention to your fiance's kids" which is a total lie, "I'm the mother of your children!") and conveniently forgets she ever said anything when she makes promises to kids and is called out for lying or breaking them.

What place/stuff/location is earmarked for your SKids?

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Mon, 12/30/2013 - 5:17pm

I'm curious how other SM's handle their SK's living in their house (meaning a home you owned before BF/SO/DH moved in with you) and what areas/locations/drawers/shelves/cabinets/rooms, etc. that you feel is necessary to allot to the SK's when they come every other weekend and the occasional week.

Feeling very alone

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Submitted by SituationalTourettes on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 2:43pm

I'm new here - just signed on today. My apologies if my abbreviations or forum etiquette lacks at all - I've never posted on one of these before. I need to know I'm not alone and I'm not nuts and there's hope I can keep my strength. I do think my situation is relatively minor, it's not catastrophic, not the end of the world. But I have mild depression, taking anti anxiety meds, and I have no one to talk to. Majority of my friends and family have little to no experience with what I am going through.

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