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I have to say that in the 3 1/2 months since SS19 moved in he has grown a lot. Maybe I should say matured. He got a job at a convenience mart but he's only getting about 20 hrs a week so he applied for a warehouse job and goes for orientation today. Fingers crossed that he will stay on the right track. I still have to get on him about being a little sloppy but we're trying to make the best of it all. However, I'm still counting the days until July 1 by which time he needs to be on his own so his mom and I can resume our regular life.
Things could be worse.
I've seen the term "Disney Dad" several times here. What does that mean?
SS19 got a part time job (5pm - 11pm) at local convenience store for 8 bucks an hour. He works there 5 shifts a week. I told him the goal was to be out and independent by July so I suggested he pick up another PT job during the day (as he just sits on the couch while DW and I are at work). Well, he seems averse to this idea and thinks it's too much! Meanwhile, I work 2 jobs, DW works job and cleans houses on the side. We are trying to be role models but I feel like he is just being LAZY! It's not like I'm telling him to work in the coal mines! I just want him to pick up a few shifts
My friends and colleagues have plenty of bragging rights about their adult children. "My daughter just got a promotion!" "My son got a full ride to______ for engineering!" "My kid just finished his Eagle Scout by building a housing development for the homeless out of recycled waterbottles!" You get the picture. I can't say any of those things. SS is 2 yrs out of high school and has no direction, no motivation, no ambitions. My bragging rights include "SS woke up before noon today" "SS managed to make it through a week of work without quitting." I feel shamed by it all. I value edu
I am relatively new here and I get the sense that there are many stepmoms here with their unique problems bealing with DHs, skids and BMs. As a reluctant stepdad with a 19y/o SS living under my roof, I was wondering if there were any other stepdads here and how they deal with DW, Biological fathers, financial strain, discipline, etc? I am in no way trying to be sexist. I was looking for a male perspective for my situation.
So SS19 started his PT job and worked three 5-11pm shifts at convenience store. Yesterday I came home from my job and he was brooding on the couch (phone in hand) claiming he was tired. When asked what was wrong he said "I feel like all I do is sleep and work." Well, apart from 8 hours on his phone, I guess he's right! LOL! Mind you his mother and I both work 2 jobs as well as maintain a household. I lost it! I said "What the eff do you think being an adult is???
I got some good advice on another thread about SS19 and kids his age. It was, and continues to be, frustrating when I see him on the phone all the time and not appearing engaged. I have to adjust my way of thinking that this is the way kids do things now and there's no putting the genie back in the bottle. Also, I was putting DW and SS in no-win positions because I resented having another adult in the house whom I had to support.
Does anyone else here have a situation like this? SS19 seems to have zero interest in dating or relationships. I may be old, but when I was 19 all I could think about was girls. I wouldn't care if SS was straight or gay... it just seems odd that he would rather be phone surfing than developing relationships (physical/emotional).
Recently moved in SS19 got a job! He starts on Monday. What a relief.
Hi everyone. Brand new here so bear with me if I make some mistakes on the abbrvriations. I have been married 51 weeks. First aniversary is next weekend. DW has two kids from previous marriage. I never had kids and spent my entire adult life either alone or living with one other person (my ex-) Anyway, SS (19yrs old almost 20) was living out of state and couldn't get his crap together with a job and living arrangements after months of telling us how things were "working out" Long story short, about a week before Christmas, SS needs to move back home (after spending all his savings).