I sometimes wonder what kind of stunts SO pulled while he was growing up. Did he not lie? Did he not push the boundaries? Did he not try to manipulate? I mean, I know he's not a tween girl, almost teen, but he shouldn't be that convinced by some of the bullshit SD12 pulls.

Went over to SO's last night to have dinner. I had work I needed to do afterwards, so I wasn't planning on staying long. He had football on the TV when we sat down to eat. (SO has a pretty small place, no dining room table, we eat at the coffee table) So I asked if we could watch something else, since it wasn't his team playing. He says, he's pausing it, because we can't watch TV. At this point, I turn and look at SD12 next to me and ask what's she's done.

Alright, so maybe one word in that title is towards SO.

I've recently started the book Stepmonster. I am literally 9 pages in and thinking, "OMG! The auther is in my head!" I really think SO needs to read this. He saw it on my counter the other day and scoffed, "Stepmonster, huh?" Then later, around some of our friends, he's like, "she's reading Stepmonster." I finally looked at him asked if he knew what it was about. NO. Ok then, why don't you find out before you start talking shit about it.

So awhile back, before I found this site, I decided I needed to take a step back from "helping" SO parent SD12. After finding this site, I now know it's disengagement. Something I should have been doing from the very beginning. I was delusional in thinking that I was "helping" instead of actually doing the hard parenting stuff.