Sorry, one more. Overreacting to SO/BM?
Ok, anyone else get annoyed by catching your SO or DH reading a text from BM? Especially when you're curious to what it is they talk about? How do you handle it? Personally I'd like to stay out of the BS, but looking over last night and seeing him reading a text from her annoyed me.
Not to mention, he's got her in her phone by a nickname and not a mean one. It's a short version of her name, that I assume he called her by.
I don't have a nickname, he only uses my name when he's annoyed with me...Otherwise it's babe or honey.
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Ah...not sure that would
Ah...not sure that would work. I used to give him free reign into my phone, until I was in the shower one day, he was at the sink. A text came in and he automatically picked it up to check it. I was standing right there. I also didn't have access into his phone. Hell no, we aren't doing that double standard BS. So I changed the code on my phone.
Maybe if it went both ways...although I would have to stop venting to my friends about him in text!
No but I do catch myself
No but I do catch myself listening to their conversation and I wish I just wouldn't. For me its more of a worry on what mood to expect from DH after the calls. I feel bad for you and others who deal with the texts though. That is bc of the reasons you mentioned above.
BF and I have an open
BF and I have an open policy... Although he does not read txts or do emails with her in our bedroom. That said I usually just ask whats up? Her actions affect me and every way shape or form and he understand I deserve to know. Currently BM wont tell us when/if she is moving I am stuck working a dead end job until it is figured out. I think this really made BF realized that BM's actions have a lot to do with me and an open policy is only fair.
"Hey, BM is #1 on your car
"Hey, BM is #1 on your car bluetooth. Don't you think she's kinda fallen out of that position?
Ha Ha that used to chap my ass... BMs name starts with an "A" so she is always first in his contacts. I'm over that now.
I found out the hard way that
I found out the hard way that for me? Snooping just made things WAY worse for me. I think I might have looked through DHs phone twice (we've been together 6 years) I can vividly remember both times, feeling like I wanted to puke. I overanalyzed every stupid little text conversation, like did DH immediately text BM back or did he wait, did the conversation seem friendly or indifferent, and for me just seeing the text from BM was as bad as if she was right there saying what was on the screen. Then of course I had to stew about the messages (even though there was nothing bad) it was just ridiculous... hell I am just ridiculous. I guess it's the battle scars of being cheated on by my ExH.
Anyway, I refrain from looking at DH's messages on his phone. It's better for me to NOT know. I did read an exchange between DH and BM2 a couple of weeks ago because he wanted me to, because they were fighting and she said some typical stupid BM things and DH got some zingers in.... so that was entertaining.