I am done.
I have come to the conclusion that while I might be able to forgive the jackass, I can't teach him to respect me and it is really all about respect. Going down to the bar to drink with two girls because we had a stupid petty fight and he was mad at me, is a mistake. Bringing them home with him, even if nothing happened, and waiting until I asked about them being there is just so disrespectful, stupid, game-playing...I could go on.
If we were married, I'd work through it. We aren't. Why should I work through something like this BEFORE marriage? I shouldn't have to tell him that bringing home two women from the bar, even if we are on a team with one of them, is a really bad idea.
Even if our friend just needed to sober up, he could have done so many different things. Called her a cab, called me, even texted me that he was letting her do that. But no, I find the evidence that they had been there and have to ASK.
I apparently have way more respect for me, then he does.
I will miss SD13, I was hoping that I was becoming a positive influence on her. I will not, however, miss Psychotic. I truly hope he's got his act together for the custody case.
In case I don't come back on here, I wanted to thank everyone for their advice and sharing their stories so that us that are new into "Step-parenting hell" would know that we are not alone.