Went over to SO's last night to have dinner. I had work I needed to do afterwards, so I wasn't planning on staying long. He had football on the TV when we sat down to eat. (SO has a pretty small place, no dining room table, we eat at the coffee table) So I asked if we could watch something else, since it wasn't his team playing. He says, he's pausing it, because we can't watch TV. At this point, I turn and look at SD12 next to me and ask what's she's done.

She missed two reading assignments in school, so she's grounded. They were due when she was with BM. SO says they were due on certain days the week before, so I ask her if she turned in the ones that were due this week. Blank stare...wwwhhaaat? So I tell her, if you normally have reading assignments due on those days, did you turn in the ones for this week? She says she has to think about it, I tell her to take her time, because I already know the answer. So does SO.

So she finally confesses and SO is pissed! I'm really not, because I'm not shocked. Tried to tell SO this was coming and suggested they sit down before the beginning of the year and write down consequences for things like this, so SD would know exactly what was going to happen if she skipped on school work. He chose not to, which is fine. I've learned to say things, then step back. If he doesn't listen, I'm not the one suffering. SO asks why SD does this, that he only has her every other week and now she's grounded.

Wait for it...

SD then yells, "Then why do you ground me?!" Ok, seriously I had to not laugh at this one and I did pretty well. SO is giving SD the speech about how she is the one who got herself grounded. Etc, etc. Finally out of his mouth comes, "Don't make me give Noidea access to the online school stuff!"

Me...uh, what? Did you really just threaten your kid with me? Granted, if it was my kid, yes, they would hate me having access. I would get on there checking assignments and grades everyday. If something didn't mesh, I'd be emailing their teachers. However, she's not my kid, I won't be doing that, and it is hugely unfair to threaten your daughter with your girlfriend! Yeah, that will really help our relationship!

So for the sake of helping SD12, I talk to her about her grades, what she wants to achieve out of life, how she expects to do that if she's doesn't graduate, etc, etc. She tries to use guilt and parents yelling at her as excuses, but I'm on a no bullshit roll this week.

On top of all this BS, SO tells me when I'm leaving that my dog isn't listening to me as well as he used to. He's right, my big guy hasn't been, at least not when SO is around. Something I need to work on. So I agree with SO and say that dog training is like raising a daughter, continuous. He gets pissy, so I texted later to let him know I wasn't taking a shot at them. He replies back that he feels I don't listen to what he says when he tells me things about "Big Guy", but that he listens to what I say when I tell him things about SD12. I laughed when I read it. Did you forget how long I had to fight you to listen to me?! Not realize that I eventually took the position to say something and then just let it go if you didn't do it?! Oh and let's not forget that I actually agreed with you, so I'm not sure why you're upset with me!

Sometimes I wonder what kind of glasses and hearing aides he wears. They must be good ones. It also makes me happy we don't live together and aren't married. I still have the option of escape...