Goodness seems like such a rollercoaster. Things are good one second then all hell breaks lose. This morning everything was good similar to other mornings except my boyfriend didn't have work today so he was home. I did my usual hop in the shower wanted to do what I always do and lay in bed for a bit and watch something and chill in peace and then I would get up and start my day. Instead I hop in the shower he's laying in bed.
So my bf is mad at me...for a number of reasons but let's start with because yesterday I kind of sort of forced him to go with me to palm springs after work to get my dog. But technically didn't force because I gave him a choice. When we met I had a dog he's always known about this dog we've had many conversations where he has clearly stated that once we got a bigger place I could bring my dog back from my dads. We finally got that place and my dad has had my dog way longer than he agreed to so I said let's pick her up.
So sd10 finally went with her mom last week. It felt great, it was pretty relaxing and me and my boyfriend felt pretty connected again and things just felt really good between us. But she is back this week and she's been pretty chill there haven't been any problems we are both kind of just doing our own thing and not really interacting too much besides from me the regular check ins. Anyways my boyfriend has become a little distant.
So my boyfriend is upset that I stood my ground and said I didn't want to watch his daughter Saturday while he drops off a gift for his friend/boss. He says that I'm being controlling because I told him he has responsibilities here that he needs to take care of not to go hang out at his friend/bosses house when he doesn't have to work. I already watch sd10 Monday-Friday while he is at work and last weekend he took advantage and stayed extra long at his bosses to have some drinks with him.
So I recently noticed that when it's just me and SD 10 we are usually pretty good no issues. She acts very sweet and she listens but when her dad is around she gets this attitude sometimes. Not all the time but every now and then and it's escalated recently given the fact that I'm pregnant with her brother and covid 19 is happening so she is stuck with us and hasn't seen her mom in over a month. Longest she's gone normally we have her 50/50. I go out of my way to do nice things for her get her things take care of her and she doesn't always seem to respect me.
So today was easter. During the week I spent time looking for things I could make a basket for sd10 with given the covid situation and the fact that I knew her dad would not get her anything or do anything because he'd most likely forget. I found some things online and put together a nice basket for her with a stuffed animal and a bunch of candy, etc. She was sweet at first and said thank you and that she liked it. Then later in the day she's like you made me a basket? I'm like yes I ordered the stuff for you online and she's like Oh! well thank you.
Not sure if anyone has had this experience but my SD literally brings up her mom 100 times a day. It's like she always needs to compare us to her mom. If we are saying something funny she's like my mom would think that's funny. Or me and my mom blah blah blah. Or dad tell me a story about you and mom. Or dad did you and mom do that? It feels so awkward but I always just let it go and don't say anything. I don't want to make her feel like she can't talk about her mom. It just seems like an odd amount. Anyone know why kids do this?