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Stepmother's "Bill of Rights" What do you all think?
I know some of you have probably seen this before, but I was wondering what you think of it, especially #5?
A STEPMOTHER'S BILL OF RIGHTS
1. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.
2. I will be part of the decision-making process in my marriage and family at all times.
3. People outside the immediate family - including ex-wives, in-laws and adult children - cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.
4. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can set no limits.
BM pissed at me because I refused to babysit her brat while she went a whoring.
This was supposed to be my husband's visitation weekend, but he had to work today and I have a bunch of stuff I had to do. So I contacted BM Thursday evening and told her we would get SD12 Saturday afternoon when DH is home rather than Friday night (so I don't have to keep her all day Saturday). BM was PISSED...said she had plans and it was our responsibility to take SD12. I told her in our state visitation is a right, not a responsibility, and I had things I had to do. She was so pissed she is refusing to let my DH have SD12 at all this weekend. Oh well...
SD12 going "over my head" to Daaadddyyy...
Well, since the trip to my family's with her, my attitude has gone all to hell.
Yesterday BM mentioned in a text to me that SD12 will be spending the weekend with us (NOT our weekend) because she wants to spend time with MY daughter who is moving here today (yay!). I was confused... pretty much told BM I hadn't heard anything about SD12 coming over and that her dad had to work and I had no idea what our plans were for this weekend. So we ended the text convo with the understanding that SD12 would NOT be coming over this weekend.
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I don't think she's his child.
Awhile back my Dh told me that before he married his daughter's mother, he asked her for a DNA test (since she was a "bar-whore") and she threw a fit and refused. I thought that was kind of suspicious, especially since I have NEVER once looked at SD11 and thought she looked like her dad. She has similar colored hair and is tall like my DH but otherwise, NOTHING.
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Just wanted to vent...
I haven't posted on here in a long time. I am trying hard to keep a good attitude about SD11 (turning 12 very soon) but sometimes things just get to me.
A few nights ago she texted DH. She is very excited because she is going on a trip with us to visit MY family 800 miles away. She was asking him when we're leaving, what she should take, etc., etc., etc. Then she says, "Daddy, I love you more than anything in the world." And he replies (he thinks I can't see his texts from where I'm sitting): "I love you more than anything in the universe."
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It's Hard on a Dumb B*tch...
I went for months trying to avoid this. I bit my tongue, kept my mouth shut, tried removing myself from the situation...
I didn't want to play this game.
Game playing takes too much effort. I don't have time for it. But she kept it up...just wouldn't stop. And guess what?
I'm playing the game.
The women in my family are exceptionally smart b*tches. I am no exception. This whole thing has been hard on BM. I don't think she's ever played the game with a smart b*tch...
But this is one game I'm going to win... again and again.
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Wow...BM really has her panties in a twist.
This afternoon I discovered I had been "unfriended" by BM on Facebook. Then I saw she had posted two pics of SD11 on DH's page. One of them she only tagged him in, but the other she wrote this big thing about how SD11 is part of both of them and how it takes two to parent her, and blah, blah, blah.
I promptly signed in to DH's account, untagged him on both pictures, and unfriended her. (DH had already requested I unfriend her for him. I manage his Facebook account. I just hadn't done it yet.)
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I am invisible too! :D
At first I thought I was just being ignored.
We went to SD11's softball game and she barely spoke to her dad, and she acted like I wasn't even there. DH spent the whole rest of the game meeting her eyes, smiling at her, talking to her while she was in the outfield near where we were sitting. Before you knew it, she was smiling back and talking to him. But she still didn't see me.
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DH is so sweet, tries so hard, and only a little bit clueless...
Apparently BM wanted SD11 to stay at our house so she could swim Sunday evening and BM would come over and pick her up later. DH told BM no... he did not want BM over here and he didn't want to be out late taking sd11 home.
SD11 apparently overheard part or all of the conversation because she's asking why he doesn't want BM to come over. DH tells her it causes "marital problems" between him and Katielee...
Huh? Our little discussion was "marital problems"??? Ugh!
Focusing on ME
It saps all my energy when I focus on sd11. There are so many what if's it is overwhelming. So I've decided I need to focus on ME for awhile.
Today I went back to the gym. I have gained 20 pounds since dh and I married last July, and those 20 pounds are making me pretty miserable. They take away a lot of my confidence and make me less able to respond appropriately to BM (who I am told, by the way, makes a habit of flirting with other women's men just to get a reaction.)
I took a couple of hours and made myself some healthy lunches so I will avoid fast food.
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