Has anyone ever read the book "The Surrendered Wife" or it's like?

I used to believe in letting my husband "lead" and our marriage was wonderful... completely blissful...

He was so very thoughtful and considerate of me. People remarked all the time that they'd never seen him "cater" to a woman like he did me (it wasn't catering... it was mutual respect.)

We rarely ever had an argument. In fact, before SD12 moved in, we had argued one time and one time only, and that was over something BM manipulated him into doing (it NEVER happened again.)

I knew when I wrote the books on Mini-Wife Syndrome I would get a lot of criticism. That just goes along with the turf. I am getting comments like, "Everyone would be better off if you just got a divorce..." or "You should have married someone without kids..."

#1... yeah, I might agree.

#2... I have a damn thick skin and an overactive middle finger that comes from years of writing controversial books in another genre.

I know better. I have even learned this lesson the hard way once before. But what did I do? I went ahead and did nice stuff for my stepdaughter anyway. Total, complete, moronic idiot, I am.

Last weekend SD12 and BM got into a disagreement. Her mom told her, "You can stay with your dad this week if you want to."

This was the first week she was supposed to be gone the entire week as indicated in the CO where we alternate weeks during the summer. I was looking forward to it sooo much.

So SD12 tells me that BM and live-in BF of about 8 months have broken up.

Same pattern as always...

BM becomes "super-mom" until she finds a new man to live with.

BM calls my DH incessantly.

At least this time my husband is picking up on it. He actually told friends last night what she was doing and how much it aggravates him. He never answers her calls unless he's with me, but she calls and leaves dozens of voice mails on his phone (which he is more than happy to share with me.)

Hehe, BM. Ain't gonna work this time.