I am engaged to be married around Thanksgiving and I have yet to meet my fiance's two children who live out of the county but he usually visits on weekends. Everytime we have tried to arrange a meeting things have gone haywire. Last time both kids suddenly fell ill and said they couldn't come visit. He says he doesn't want to "traumatize" them by pushing them to meet me but it feels important that I at least meet them before we marry. I understand it is an adjustment for them, but I'm really a person who loves kids and would be kind to them.