Where do I begin...The ex knew me while they were still married. I didn't realize the error in my ways till it was too late. What's done and said cannot be undone. They were officially divorced last year in November after being separated for almost two years. She moved the kids three hours away from us (legally!) and we drove twelve hours every other weekend and sometimes every weekend (I think it's important to get one on one time with them since they seem to fight for attention when they're all together). Then their father and I relocated to the same city as the kids.