I'm lost. For the first time in a long time, completely lost. I did not plan to start over again, who does, really? I'm the strong woman, raised by a long line of even stronger women. I was taught to be self-sufficient. Now I'm raising three girls, my BD6, SD14 and SD18. Mine is about as self supporting as she can be. SD14 just tries to fly under the radar - fine. SD18 is the most manipulative, cry baby sally I've ever met. She can't do a damned thing for herself.