I'm lost. For the first time in a long time, completely lost. I did not plan to start over again, who does, really? I'm the strong woman, raised by a long line of even stronger women. I was taught to be self-sufficient. Now I'm raising three girls, my BD6, SD14 and SD18. Mine is about as self supporting as she can be. SD14 just tries to fly under the radar - fine. SD18 is the most manipulative, cry baby sally I've ever met. She can't do a damned thing for herself. This irritates me because it actually works for her - she talks in this baby voice and everyone comes running to her aid. I was thinking this morning that it probably could work for me if I had no self respect. I was thinking that I should at least give it the old college try just to see what happens - then, my alarm rang. I can't escape this maddening desire to kick her ass - even in my sleep. I was told that she has no foundation on which to base or build herself. This is why she relies on everyone to rescue her. But I really don't want to help mold her into someone that I could respect. She's done me wrong for so long that I can't see helping her. She wants to be the adult and take on the world, but she's gaining every bit of ground by manipulating everyone around her, rather than earning it. She's never lifted a finger to help around the house. She leaves me a list of groceries for herself and then bitches when I buy the wrong brand name. Tells on me to DDDAAAAAADDDDDDYYYYY. She's got daddy issues and will, literally, flirt with him. This pisses me off. I can't remember the last time I flirted with him myself. But she does or says something and he goes running. He's been the absent parent for many years and suddenly feels an obligation to spoil them. He fills her car with gas, checks all fluids, gives her lunch money, etc. When did his obligation to me end? Maybe I'm just jealous?