I think it was Jeff Foxworthy that coined the phrase " You know your a redneck if" This is my list of

"You know you're not considered family if"

Pictures of the holiday's that your husband is proudly showing do not include you because you were not invited.

I remember when the book and movie " He's just not that into you" was popular. I never read or saw the movie, but it was obvious that men in general understood and had practiced the avoidance, use you if there was a benefit techniques. I did see a few talk shows on the subject and it appeared that most men including my DH were aware of the tricks guys play and questioned if women were really so dense they could not see when a guy was just not that into the relationship.

My DH knows I use ST as an outlet to vent about about past situations and to get insight about step issues. He has a very different attitude about life in general. His is one of " Don't bother me about details, It is what it is. or if they do not like it then f--- them." and I have always been more of the " Should I have done more, or something different, always looking back wondering if I had reacted differently, if I had been more informed could I have had a better result."

2011 was a good year for me. That was the year I was able to purchase a split level on 2 acres. Paid cash. And paid less then most people pay for a used car. DH and I spent months renovating it ourselves before moving in. What is most unique is that it is in the city and close to everything. Years ago the entire block was part of this property. The owner then sold part of the land to a developer that built houses. This house has no street in front and is in a wooded area. Such a sense of privacy and seclusion. I love it.