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May we have your attention----Train crash coming

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Wed, 10/12/2011 - 6:58am

Some men get it . Some men don't. When a wife says " You are being set up again, you are getting used. remember last time this
happened but you did not believe me? Remember?" THAT IS BITCHING!!

To the wife it is not. It is just the 15th time of yelling "TRAIN CRASH TRAIN CRASH " as the speeding train approaches the car PARKED on the tracks. For some reason hubby keeps going on to the tracks , parking the car, and thinking this time the results will be different. " Remember the last 15 times you did this?"

HOW IRONIC

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Fri, 09/16/2011 - 6:13am

My past few blogs have revolved around DH's nephew who was in the service and recently died. I am sure since he was young he never took the thought of dying seriously. Among the living one minute and dead the next due to a vehicle accident.

His dad moved him out of the home when he was about 8 and raised him alone. The mom's older children from another marriage were not treating very nice. [Putting him in the dryer, putting him in garbage cans and holding the lid down,usual partying when they should have been looking out for little brother]while the parents worked.

changes

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Fri, 08/26/2011 - 7:00am

Just a few thoughts on how my opinions and actions have changed over the years concerning the steps, their children, and DH ex. Actually changed a lot since we started this journey years ago.
There was a time when hearing "I divorced the ex because she ran around on me and got pregnant " was met with " What a terrible person she was" now it's met with " That's not true- you divorced because you wanted to marry the woman you were living with for several years."

Good-bye

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Thu, 08/04/2011 - 7:13pm

Yesterday the family buried my husband's nephew's son. I can only say that he would be so proud of the love and concern shown to each other with in his family. All the slights and hurts that are often part of being a step family ceased to exist. In this time of agony they were one family. Crying together, supporting each other and trying to make sense of this tragedy and loss.
Bryan---You are loved and missed

Same care--- different outcome

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Sat, 07/30/2011 - 7:24am

The son of my husband's nephew died recently in a car crash. He was in the military and would have been out soon. Everyone is still in a state of shock and my heart goes out to the family as they make the funeral arrangements. Why is this so different then a step situation? When I married my husband 12 years ago it left the house I owned vacant.[Next to his house] His parents were divorced and Bryan's dad had custody.

Katrinkie's blog makes me wonder

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Thu, 07/14/2011 - 7:29am

I woke this morning thinking about my feelings toward the situation of my husband 's plan to bring his grandchildren here to visit. There was a time I felt close to these kids,in fact I spent almost 3 of the first 4 years of this marriage raising some of them to keep them out of the foster care system. After the last one went home I have not involved myself with any of them. Once again Katrinkie wrote a post that hit home for me,because I too had felt the children just did not want any relationship with me.

WHERE WAS CEASAR WHEN I NEEDED HIM [DOG WHISPERER]

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Wed, 07/06/2011 - 7:08am

AFTER READING KATRINKIE'S BLOG THIS MORNING MAKES ME SIT BACK AND THINK ABOUT MY OWN SITUATION. EVEN THOUGH I DID NOT COME INTO A SITUATION OF AT HOME STEPS , SO MANY OF THE SAME PROBLEMS EXIST. I ALSO HAVE HAD TO ADMIT TO MYSELF THAT EVERYONE INVOLVED IN OUR SITUATION HAS CONTRIBUTED TO THE OUTCOME OF OUR SITUATION. MYSELF, THE STEPS ,THE EX, AND I THINK TO THE GREATEST DEGREE MY HUSBAND. FOR MYSELF, I SEE THAT I WENT INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH NO KNOWLEDGE OR EXPERIENCE ABOUT STEPS. I WRONGLY ASSUMED THAT WE COULD ALL BE ONE HAPPY, EXTENDED FAMILY.

COULD IT JUST BE THE PERSON'S PERSONALITY?

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Sun, 06/26/2011 - 7:12pm

I was on Facebook the other day. To my surprise there was a picture of the last home my deceased parents lived in. With it was a comment by my brother stating"This was the family home my dumb ass brother lost{sold} with the help of my sister." Then on-going comments from people he knew about how the house was such a bargain at the forclosure price and what a great rental investment turned into apartments.He plans to look into buying this historical home to use as rental. ALL I CAN THINK IS "WHY?' He never lived in this home.So there are no fond childhood memories there.

SO IT'S FATHER'S DAY AGAIN

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Sun, 06/12/2011 - 5:05am

These are my thoughts at 5AM this morning. Dear husband, I have been with you for 12 yrs. now. It was hard not to notice that in the beginning the father's day cards came from my children that were adults when I met you. Your's did pick up the phone and call. When my children had young one's then you received cards from grandkids who did not know you were a step grandpa and had no idea their bio grandpa ever existed because he died when his children were young.

THOUGHTS ON DISENGAGING

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Submitted by godess-clueless on Sat, 05/14/2011 - 7:03am

How has it changed my life? Let me count the ways. Biggest change has been the feeling of freedom of responsibility. I made the stand that I no longer would take responsibility for promises and commitments made by others. If the person making the commitment was not in a position to fulfill that promise or commitment then let them suffer the embarrassment and the consequenses. Unlike the past, I do not step forward to save the day. Unlike the past I do not feel that an embarrassing situation happening to others has any reflection on me.

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