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COULD IT JUST BE THE PERSON'S PERSONALITY?

godess-clueless's picture

I was on Facebook the other day. To my surprise there was a picture of the last home my deceased parents lived in. With it was a comment by my brother stating"This was the family home my dumb ass brother lost{sold} with the help of my sister." Then on-going comments from people he knew about how the house was such a bargain at the forclosure price and what a great rental investment turned into apartments.He plans to look into buying this historical home to use as rental. ALL I CAN THINK IS "WHY?' He never lived in this home.So there are no fond childhood memories there. The brother who inherited the home never wanted it but mom's will left it to him and everyone else received the cash from a very generous trust fund. The brother posting does not even live in the state and he is the most well educated and financialy well off. It is 7 yrs. later and the one with the most security is the one most discontent. The rest of us have lost jobs, lost homes, lost businesses,and have finally been able to get back on our feet and thank God for the blessings we do have in these depressed times. Although THE TRUST MONEY WAS NO WHERE NEAR THE VALUE OF THE HOUSE, THE HOUSE WAS LEFT TO THE BROTHER WHO LIVED THERE, TOOK CARE OF MOM. THE REST OF US TOOK OUR TURNS TO HELP OUT BUT NEVER TO THE EXTENT THAT THIS BROTHER GAVE UP HIS FREEDOM AND LIFE. We never saw the discontented brother until mom was dying. IS THIS A STEP SITUATION??? NO THIS IS THE STORY OF PARENTS MARRIED A LIFETIME AND ALL BIO SIBLINGS. MAKES ME WONDER HOW MUCH OF THE STEP PROBLEM HAS MORE TO DO WITH PERSONALITY RATHER THEN BEING A STEP. DO WE SOMETIMES BLAME TO QUICKLY IT IS A STEP ISSUE RATHER THEN CONSIDER SOME PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD ARE JUST ALWAYS COMPARING HOW THEY DID NOT GET, OR FEELING OWED, OR NOT ACCEPTING THAT EVERYONE IS NOT OF THE SAME OPINION? REALLY NOT SURE WHERE THIS IS GOING EXCEPT I NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING TO GET OVER THE FEELING OF SHOCK, HURT,AND MAYBE EVEN ANGER THAT IN THIS SHORT LIFE HERE MY BROTHER COULD EXPRESS SUCH FEELINGS PUBLICLY. I know the sister that was executor had to feel crushed. Icalled her to tell her how much I loved and appreciated her.

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hismineandours's picture

I do think you are right. In my situation, there ARE step issues, however, they are not all step issues. My ss has a very unpleasant personality-truly. Perhaps all my step issues would not be so bad if he was just a different young man.

It sounds as if your brother is one of those eternal victims. Some people just are. It is sad really, but rarely do those people change.

SteppingUp's picture

I do agree with you. I think some people feel incredibly entitled to everything whether deserved or not and that's certainly a personality trait I see in many people. Or they are constant victims...it's the world against them at all times. For sure a personality trait...and some of us are "lucky" enough to have these personalities as our steps, or the BM's of our steps Smile

Good point!

Very sad story that someone in your family thinks they are owed something when they didn't put any love/care into your mother. These type of people only seem to care about worldly possessions.