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Now I have read it all, and it explains a lot!!!

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For awhile now, I occassionally go onto myspace and see if my dh's ex is on there, as well as her new dh. I havent had much luck.. UNTIL TODAY.. I hit pay dirt.

So.. I find the elusive ex.. and start to reading her blogs, thinking I can gain a better understanding of why she does and says the things she does and says. Well. I found it.. I found the reason I think she hates me so freakin much!

Hypocrite!

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My dh got his @ss chewed out by bm over the hair trims we got the skids for Easter weekend. Both skids were in dire need of a trim, as they had deadends. SS9 is trying to grow his hair out. DH explained to him that the hairdresser would leave the length.. just trim it up and make it neat. SS9 seemed ok w/the trim. BM called dh to tell her how upset ss9 was and how dare he cut/trim the skids hair.. and then went on to say some not so nice things about moi.

The Outcome!!!

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I brought up the subject again last night, and dh has agreed that we should do what would be in the best interest of any future child that we have, and that we would reprioritize the rooms.

I grabbed my handi dandy little tape measure and was measuring off stuff to get a better idea of how we should shuffle things around in the small 3 bedrooms.

I was extremely happy that he is considering the safety and well being of our future children. So now I have a plan. Now all I need to do is get pregnant. I just wish it was as easy as it is said!!

Wish us luck!!!

Still not sure what the outcome was!!

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Well.. as I posted earlier yesterday, I was going to let my dh know that when we have a child, I would prefer that child to have their own room, and the skids to share a room (ss & sd) and that we would redecorate the room to accomodate both tastes and put up a partition to seperate the room. Esp. given they only occupy those rooms 24 nights a year.

MA Probate

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I just contacted the MA probate court to ask a question regarding the NCP obligations for bedrooms.

I was informed that my dh is under no obligation to provide seperate bedrooms for his kids of the opposite sex, since they are there less than 30% of the year.. 24 nights, 48 days.. that is 7% if you go by the sleep overs and 14% if you go by the days at the house.

Wow.. guilt parenting actually extends to guilt grandparenting!!

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So... as most my know, my dh and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. We still have not had much luck, but keep planning as if it will happen.

The plans I am referring to are 1) start training the skids now so that the baby is not blamed and 2) get the house as ready as possible, since it was a fixer upper.

Has anyone ever wanted to just keep driving???

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I actually contemplated this last night. No really.. I did. A little history..

So, for the past year (about that) I would say that I have been down. I came off some antidepressants to try and get pregnant. We started trying Feb 2007. In April 2007, my husband went out to see for 2 monhts. During that 2 months, my Grandmother died, and an uncle committed suicide the morning of her funeral.

Those two events started me on a downward spiral of sorts. I stopped eating sensibly and since last May have gained about 30lbs.

Help?!?!?!

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Ok.. so I was looking up Military retirement benefits, although my dh is a long way off from that.. What I found would be great for a non-blended family.. not so sure it would be great for us.

Turns out at year 15, a service member my decide which retirement package they choose to go with. one of them is a straight payout of benefits at a percentage of the pay (36 highest months average) and the other you get a 1 time payment of $30k to do with as you choose, and then your retirement is lowered by about 10% for the earliest they can get out.

NEW CAR!!

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Ok.. So.. My poor little car has suffered yet another set back. My dh has informed me that we will NOT be sinking more money into her. I LOVE my car.. and have felt its a part of my identity for years.. 9 to be exact!! My car is wonderful and fun and cute.

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